Writing your own vows, in addition to the legal wording, can be a great way to really make your ceremony your own. However, for some couples, the thought of doing so can be really daunting.
“Start by looking at your relationship and thinking about your shared values,” advises Andri Benson, wedding planner at Always Andri (alwaysandri.co.uk). “Consider what is important to you as individuals and as a couple. Then think about the kind of partner you’d like to be in the future and the dreams that you share. These are a great basis for promises you can make to each other – but do add a little humour! Pick out something you know your partner ÀQGV DQQR\LQJ DERXW \RX DQG SURPLVH QRW
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“If your partner speaks another language, how about you learn to say one of your vows in that language – you’ll also score major brownie points with his or her family”.
You could also book an independent wedding celebrant to conduct a symbolic ceremony. “They can personalise your script to include your story and include a symbolic ritual, too, such as handfasting or a wine ceremony – you could even create your own symbolic wedding that brings together a favourite pastime that you love doing together.”
Consider a handfasting ceremony