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Afew months ago I got sunburn, and I now have big white strap marks. My wedding is in a month and my dress is strapless – the marks are going to show up so badly in the photos. Help! Kazbride
Y&YW says: You won’t be able to work miracles, but you can reduce the harshness of the tan line by exfoliating the area – this will help shed the affected layers of skin. You could also use fake tan to disguise the marks. After a shower, apply moisturiser to your darker patches to create a barrier, then apply the tan. The principle is that the product will cling to the untanned parts, and even out your skin tone.
I’ve just got engaged and we want to get married in August 2019. However, my best friend, who has been engaged for a while, is getting married in September 2019. Is it rude if I get married before her (and so close to her wedding date)? Mrsbtobe
Y&YW says: It’s actually very common to get married around the same time as your friends, so why not relish the fact that you’ve reached this exciting time in your lives together? Be honest with your friend and ask her if she will be bothered about you getting married the month before. Explain your reasons, and be sure to tell her how excited you also are for her day. Wedding planning with pals can be fun – you can share ideas and help each other through the process.
My sister is refusing to wear the dress I’ve chosen for her. She says she feels uncomfortable and doesn’t like it. I’ve suggested getting it tailored, or finding a similar dress for the evening, but nothing works. What should I do? Heidistandford9
Y&YW says: The usual rule is that if the bride is paying, she gets the final say on what the maids wear – so if you’re forking out, then technically your sister should be co-operative. Of course, you have to consider how she might feel wearing an outfit that she feels uncomfortable in, but it sounds like you are trying to be very accommodating. Perhaps explain to your sister how much it means to you that she’s there on your big day, and that her wearing the same outfit as the rest of your maids would make you very happy. Once she sees it as a token of sisterly love rather than just wearing a dress, she just might change her mind.
One of my husband-to-be’s best friends will be a groomsman at our wedding, but we both really do not like his wife and don’t want her to attend. My fiancé is worried that his groomsman won’t show up if she isn’t invited – is there an answer? Y&YW says: The bottom line is that no one should be at your wedding unless you want them there – after all, it is your big day. We can see why your fiancé might be worried about his friend not wanting to attend without his wife, so one solution is that you invite his wife to the evening only. By then, you’ll be on cloud nine and hopefully her presence will be less noticeable.
Iget married in one month and I have no idea what I’m supposed to be doing right now. I feel pretty organised – but is there something I’m missing? Laura1979
Y&YW says: It sounds like you’re all set, but it’s worth checking with your wedding venue or planner to ensure that everything is OK, just to give you some peace of mind. Another thing to tick off your to-do list is to check with your bridal party that they are clear about the order of the day and what is expected of them. The last thing you want is a rogue groomsman not knowing what time to arrive at the registry office! Need help with wediquette? Talk to us at facebook.com/ youyourwedding, post your problem at youandyour wedding.co.uk/forum or email yywwebeditor@ immediate.co.uk