Albany Times Union (Sunday)

Upbringing makes all the difference

- ▶ Dowd writes for The New York Times.

Two men, sons of immigrants, rising to be the head of their own empires, powerful forces in their ethnic communitie­s. Both dapper and mustachioe­d with commanding personalit­ies. And both wielding a potent influence on the children who learned at their knees and followed them into the family businesses.

But here’s the difference: Big Tommy D’alesandro Jr. taught little Nancy how to count. Fred Trump taught Donald, from the time he was a baby, that he didn’t have to count — or be accountabl­e; Daddy’s money made him and buoyed him.

Fred, a dictatoria­l builder in Brooklyn and Queens from German stock, and Big Tommy, a charming Maryland congressma­n and mayor of Baltimore from Italian stock, are long gone. But their roles in shaping Donald and Nancy remain vivid, bleeding into our punishing, pressing national debate over immigratio­n, a government shutdown and that inescapabl­e and vexing Wall.

At this fraught moment when the pain of the shutdown is kicking in, President Donald Trump and Speaker Nancy Pelosi offer very different visions — shaped by their parents — of what it means to be an American.

When Trump gave his Oval Office address, the framed photo of his dad was peering over his shoulder. In her House speaker’s office in the Capitol, Pelosi prominentl­y displays a photo of herself at 7, holding the Bible as her father is sworn in as Baltimore mayor in 1947.

D’alesandro was a loyal New Deal Democrat, just as Pelosi — the first daughter to follow her father into Congress — is a resolute liberal. She grew up in a house with portraits of FDR and Truman.

Donald Trump spent most of his life as a political opportunis­t, learning from his dad that real estate developers must lubricate both sides of the aisle. Trump was once friendly with Pelosi, sending her a note in 2007 when she won the speaker job the first time — with a boost from his $20,000 donation to the party — calling her “the best.” (Unlike with “Cryin’ Chuck,” Trump has not gone for the jugular with a nasty nickname for Pelosi.)

In her memoir, Pelosi recalled that her Catholic parents “raised me to be holy.” She told me, “My mother and my father instilled in us, public service is a noble calling” and “never measure a person by how much money they had.”

A constant stream of strangers lined up at their house in Baltimore’s Little Italy, seeking food and help. One of Pelosi’s most arresting memories, she told CNN’S Dana Bash, was giving immigrants who came to the door advice on how to get into the projects or to the hospital. Alexandra, Pelosi’s documentar­ian daughter, recounts this anecdote: Her son, Thomas — who was named after Big Tommy and who stood at the speaker’s side as she reclaimed her gavel — wanted an Xbox in 2017, so he set up a lemonade stand in Manhattan and raked in $1,000. His grandmothe­r sat him down and asked, “That’s going to the victims of Hurricane Harvey, right?”

Contrast that with Don Jr.’s uncharitab­le message on Instagram on Tuesday: “You know why you can enjoy a day at the zoo? Because walls work.”

Where the D’alesandros saw the downtrodde­n and immigrants as people to weave into the American dream, the Trumps saw suckers to squeeze.

According to The Times’ blockbuste­r tax investigat­ion, Fred lavished Donald with three trust funds and $10,000 Christmas checks. When Donald was 8, he was already a millionair­e, thanks to his tax-scamming father. Fred Trump was hauled before a congressio­nal panel investigat­ing whether he had looted government money through fraud.

By the time Donald was 27, he had fully absorbed Trump family values, a callous inversion of noblesse oblige: He and his father were getting sued by the Justice Department for refusing to rent to blacks. Over the years, Fred funneled tens of millions of dollars to clean up Donald’s messes. The father even gave the son $3.5 million in chips to save an Atlantic City casino. By the time he was in his 40s, Donnie’s allowance was more than $5 million annually. No wonder he’s still an infant.

When Trump said he could “relate” to federal workers who are now going without pay, it may have been the most audacious lie he told all week. He may know what it’s like to go from bankruptcy to bankruptcy — though always with a paternal safety net — but he has no idea of what it’s like to live paycheck to paycheck, much less none at all.

Pelosi is using what she calls her “mother of five” voice on our tantrum-prone president.

But how do you discipline the world’s brattiest 72-year-old?

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