False advertising is a recipe for failure
DEAR ABBY: I was divorced three years ago, and recently went on some dating sites to find a possible companion. All the women I met had posted photos that looked nothing like them. It was embarrassing.
You usually meet in a public place, so the gentlemanly thing to do is continue the encounter, only to not follow up. It would be so much nicer if women posted a recent photo so that there would be no surprises.
Case in point: I had a date with a lady whose photo showed her to be slim, with black hair. When she showed up she had white hair and she had gained at least 30 pounds. She recognized me from my profile photo, which was recent. Because I’m a gentleman, I made no mention of the discrepancy and made the most of our lunch.
I think women would be wise to place a recent photo on their profile. It would eliminate any surprises. DISAPPOINTED IN VERMONT
DEAR DISAPPOINTED: I agree that there should be more truth in advertising. However, the same can be said for men who have also been known to fudge the truth about their height and weight, and whose photos feature them wearing baseball caps to hide their baldness. There will be a better outcome and fewer disappointments if the “moment of truth” comes before the meeting.
DEAR ABBY: I am very frustrated because my soon-to-be husband doesn’t shower often. He showers about twice a month and that’s it. I have tried convincing him to get in the shower with me as foreplay, but he refuses. When I ask him why, he says he showers “enough.” He doesn’t seem depressed or moody. He just smells really bad.
All of this is recent. Because of it, I have become less willing to have sexual contact with him. His hygiene problems are major. When we first got together, he showered daily or at least every other day. He doesn’t understand how disgusted I am. His behavior is extremely gross and unhealthy. THE CLEAN ONE
DEAR CLEAN ONE: Your fiance’s poor hygiene IS extremely gross and unhealthy. He understands how disgusted you are; he just doesn’t care. He cleaned up before because you hadn’t been “wooed and won” yet. He may change in the future, but not for the better.
You say this personality change is recent. You might be doing him a favor to suggest that it’s time for a checkup with his doctor.
DEAR ABBY: What is proper elevator etiquette? I’ve always assumed that passengers should exit the elevator before new ones get on. However, I have seen some people push their way through the door while people are exiting. Shouldn’t they wait until everyone has left the elevator before entering? It seems like common sense to me. ANN IN NEW YORK
DEAR ANN: It IS common sense, and it’s also the rule of etiquette.