Teen’s actions need police intervention
DEAR ABBY: Regarding “Needs a Playmate” (Feb. 15), I agreed with your advice to 7-year-old “Jessie’s” mom to make it clear that what happened was not her daughter’s fault, and that “Jason” was in the wrong. You also addressed Jason’s mother’s unwillingness to deal with the issue. However, I don’t believe your advice went far enough.
What 13-year-old Jason did was not merely misbehaving. It was an attempt at sexual molestation and a huge red flag. Chances are he has tried this behavior before, and likely succeeded. There is also the possibility that Jason himself has been a victim or has been exposed to sexually arousing material. In any case, he needs help. An investigation should occur to locate other possible victims. The appropriate reaction to something like this is to contact the local authorities and child protective services. CONCERNED READER IN UTAH
DEAR READER: Thank you for raising this issue. Other readers were also concerned that my advice did not go far enough. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: In many states, if there is a fouryear age gap between children who engage in “sex play,” it may constitute a crime. In many counties, children’s services will step in to investigate whether Jason has also been abused or, more likely, is watching pornography. Jason needs to be reported. Reporting this would be a good thing for him to ensure that he won’t eventually become part of the juvenile justice system. — A LITTLE SHOCKED IN DAYTON, OHIO
DEAR ABBY: That 13-year-old boy attempted to sexually abuse Jessie, which is a crime. He may also have done other things to her that, at her age, she may not be able to understand were wrong. Her mom should have her examined by a physician and get a referral for counseling. The police should also be notified to investigate. Don’t forget — Jason has a younger sister who could be a victim, too.
He’s old enough to know his behavior is wrong, and without intervention he could repeat it. He may even make another attempt on Jessie, since she lives close by. She may be at risk for being abused again and remain silent because she lost her friend when she told her mother what happened in the first place. Mom: Please don’t overlook this. — NANCY IN NEW ENGLAND
DEAR ABBY: I’m a 23-year-old girl who is still a virgin. I haven’t had a real kiss or dated, either. My mom and friends think it’s because I read a lot of romance novels and imagine something like that happening to me. Are they right? Will I ever find love? HOPELESS ROMANTIC
DEAR HOPELESS ROMANTIC: You probably will find love eventually. However, before you can do that, you will first have to spend less time reading and more time meeting men and making friends, and stop expecting them to live up to your fantasies.