Peace Corps plan gets a thumbs down
DEAR ABBY: Our 23-year-old daughter, “Alexa,” has a good, well-paying corporate job with good benefits and a flexible schedule. She has low expenses, no debt and banks a respectable amount of her pay even though she lives 1,500 miles from home in a highpriced area. She works 40 hours max and has plenty of free time.
The issue? Alexa wants to quit her job and join the Peace Corps! Must we just say OK to chucking it all and moving to a Third World country?
Honestly, our biggest concern after her safety is her investing two years, moving back home and us having to support her while she looks for a job. My wife and I need to save for our own retirement. I’m trying to convince Alexa to use her free time to volunteer. What is your advice? — BAD IDEA
DEAR BAD IDEA: Talk to Alexa about your concerns for her future after she leaves the Peace Corps. Ask if she plans to use the money she’s been putting away as a cushion after her return in the event she’s unable to find a job right away. Then explain that you are asking because you need to build up your retirement and won’t be able to give her financial support. She needs to know it before she quits her job.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. I’m retired, but she still works 13-hour days in the ICU.
When she told me before we were married that she didn’t clean house, I didn’t realize she meant EVER! I run the dishwasher, I wash and dry clothes, and I pick up my stuff. When I put all the bills she had scattered around in one stack, I was told, “Now I can’t find anything! I have my own system, and you messed it up!”
She has promised that “when she has time” she’ll clean house, but several times when she had a few days off, she spent them playing Candy Crush. I have never told her she must clean; I say WE need to do it. She ignores me.
Abby, we both have allergies and asthma issues. What can I do? Hope she forgives me after I clean? — IN A MESS IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR IN A MESS: No. The responsibility for ensuring your home is healthy and habitable should not rest solely on your shoulders. I DO think you should hire a house cleaner to come in once a week. Your wife has a stressful job, and when she’s off she may need to rest. It shouldn’t break the bank, so discuss this option with her.
DEAR ABBY: I am a junior in high school, and there’s a cute guy on my cross country team I really like. What’s the best way to find out if he returns my feelings, and how can I deal with it if he doesn’t? TEEN IN MONTANA
DEAR TEEN: A way to find out if a guy likes you is to start talking to him about your sport or other school-related subjects. You will soon see if you have anything else in common. If he’s interested in talking to you, that’s a good sign. But if he isn’t, you’ll have to do what everyone else does: Accept and move on.