Battle of wills erupts over social media posts
DEAR ABBY: My adult son has a drug addiction, for which he is receiving treatment. My family and I have just met his daughter, who we had only recently learned about. She’s 6. I had a celebration for her birthday at my house. My mom (the greatgrandma) took pictures of the birthday girl and her friends, and posted them on social media. I had asked her before the party started to please not post pictures of the children on social media. She said she does what she wants.
I don’t believe pictures of children under 18 should be posted on social media and, in this case, especially since we just met my granddaughter. She didn’t have permission from the other children’s moms to post. I feel my mother disrespected my house and my rules, and I need to know how to handle future events. Please help.
I was raised to respect my parents, but this is a deal-breaker, and I’m seriously considering not including her in future events involving the children. — DEALBREAKER IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR DEALBREAKER: Your mother has made it clear that your wishes and your rules mean nothing to her — she does what she wants. Now it’s time to exercise your own good judgment and do what YOU want. If you feel she might do something that would place the children in harm’s way, by all means exclude her from events involving them. DEAR ABBY: After three years together, my boyfriend and I decided to split up amicably once we graduated from college. I bought him an expensive engraved pocket knife as a graduation gift, but there was a delay and it didn’t arrive until we had graduated and he’d returned to his home country in Europe. I forwarded it to him with a card when I received it. Unfortunately, when the box arrived in his country a month later, it was empty except for the card. Someone had stolen my gift.
We have both filed claims with our countries’ post offices, to no avail. Should I buy him a new one, or has the moment passed? He stressed that he didn’t expect a replacement. — MOMENT HAS PASSED
DEAR MOMENT:
Because your ex-boyfriend made clear that he doesn’t expect a replacement, let the matter rest. Allow his memories of college — and you — to be his mementos. They are what’s most important because they can’t be stolen.
DEAR ABBY: I have been with someone for seven years. From the start, he said he wasn’t the jealous type. He says that when we are out, flirting is OK because we go home together, and if someone wants a kiss, I should give it. What do you think of this? I’m not for it. — HEARTBROKEN IN FLORIDA
DEAR
HEARTBROKEN: So this man says it’s OK for both of you, I assume, to flirt and kiss others? What I “think” is that regardless of how long you have been together, this person isn’t interested in an exclusive relationship, and if that’s what you want, it may be time to find someone whose values more closely mirror your own.