Albuquerque Journal

New prospect muddles dreamboat romance

- Abigail Van Buren Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY: My whole life I dreamed about marrying a college football player and I have been in a serious relationsh­ip with one. Last week he called me and told me we should take a break.

Immediatel­y afterward, I have met up with a close friend and I think I may be developing feelings for him. He doesn’t have the great looks my boyfriend has, but he is much kinder to me and he treats me right.

I’m stuck because my boyfriend called me last night and I think he wants to get back together. Should I stick with my longtime boyfriend, or leave him for the guy I know will treat me right? — HARD CHOICE IN THE WEST

DEAR HARD CHOICE: You do not marry an occupation; you marry a person. A handsome partner who distances himself from you one week and wants to reconcile the next would make a terrible husband. Take it slow and stick with someone who will treat you right and you will have a far happier life. Trust me.

DEAR ABBY: I’m 24, married and have no children. But when they’re in my home or car, shouldn’t I be allowed to ask them to stop whatever they’re doing wrong without the mother getting upset?

My neighbor and I carpool twice a week. Her child was topsyturvy all over the back seat with her shoes leaving marks on my back window. When I asked the child to please take her feet off the window, her mother, to my surprise, announced that next time she would drive her own car, that SHE was uncomforta­ble and “hoped my future children would be perfect”!


DEAR SOILED: No, you were not wrong. In case you have forgotten, children are required by law to wear seat belts (or sit in a car seat) when in a moving vehicle. In your car and your home, your rules should prevail. No one should create a mess, and if an accident does happen, the parent should clean it up. The woman overreacte­d.

DEAR ABBY: My 10-year-old daughter is a beautiful girl inside and out. She’s caring, loving and sweet to everyone. My only concern is that she still sleeps in the bed with her mom. While I don’t object to this and am willing to sacrifice and sleep elsewhere, should I be concerned about her psychologi­cal developmen­t?


DEAR DADDY: Most children in our culture have learned to sleep independen­tly by the age of 2. Your daughter should not have displaced you from your marriage bed for the last 10 years, but that is a separate issue. Because you are concerned about whether the sleeping arrangemen­t is damaging to her psychologi­cal developmen­t, the resource to consult is a licensed child psychologi­st.

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