She wants to pass on the love of horse­back rid­ing

Antelope Valley Press - - Valley Life -

Dear Annie: I grew up horse­back rid­ing in Mon­tana. It was some­thing that my fa­ther and I did to­gether, and I have such fond mem­o­ries. We would trail ride un­der the big sky and talk for hours on end. I formed a love of na­ture and have found it to al­ways be my happy pace.

In ad­di­tion to lov­ing the great out­doors as a re­sult of this, I have a deep con­nec­tion to an­i­mals. I am an at­tor­ney for an­i­mal welfare and in par­tic­u­lar make sure that horses are be­ing treated fairly by the horse car­riages in New York City. That is where we now live — my hus­band, our daugh­ter and me. It is a long way from the peace and quiet of Mon­tana, but it seems to be where there is a need for my line of work.

Now that I am a mother, I re­ally want to pass on the gift of rid­ing to my daugh­ter. The prob­lem is that my hus­band is a city-born boy and doesn’t un­der­stand horse­back rid­ing. More im­por­tantly, he doesn’t un­der­stand the cost of rid­ing, which, in fair­ness to him, is con­sid­er­ably more ex­pen­sive in New York than in the sta­ble where I grew up rid­ing. We have both dug our heels in, and I refuse to not give my daugh­ter the gift of rid­ing. And he com­plains about the money we spend at the barn ev­ery time we go. What can I do?

— Horse­back Rid­ing Mother

Dear Horse­back Rider: Con­grat­u­la­tions on your ded­i­ca­tion to pro­tect­ing those who can’t pro­tect them­selves. There are so many ad­van­tages to horse­back rid­ing for chil­dren. In this day of screens and tech­nol­ogy, it is a good way for kids to just get away from elec­tron­ics and back into na­ture. It is also very hard work to care for a pony and can teach your daugh­ter about dis­ci­pline and build up her con­fi­dence. Rid­ing is also good phys­i­cal ex­er­cise.

The ben­e­fits are many; however, the cost is not some­thing to dis­count. You could see if your barn will of­fer lessons for work. De­pend­ing on your daugh­ter’s age, some­times barns have pro­grams where the rid­ers can work for their lessons. There are also great or­ga­ni­za­tions that fo­cus on horse­back rid­ing as a source of ther­apy.

Dear Annie: There is a per­son in my life who thinks I’m her best friend. She is sort of ob­sessed with me, and it gives me the creeps. I’ve tried be­ing sub­tly rude, but she doesn’t take the hint. She talks about me all the time to others and is al­ways telling peo­ple we are best friends. — How Do You Get Rid of Some­one?

Dear Get­ting Rid Of:

Us­ing sub­tlety, or any type of hints you drop to this per­son, seems to have got­ten you nowhere. You must be di­rect and straight­for­ward and ask her not to email you or con­tact you any more.

It sounds like mov­ing away from this toxic per­son was a good thing. Now, it is time to com­pletely cut her out of your life. Ask her once and very di­rectly not to con­tact you, and, if she con­tin­ues, you should ig­nore her com­pletely. No need for terse replies when no re­ply is bet­ter.

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