It’s just you and me, kid

Small things can make a big difference. When a baby enters a family, for example, life changes for everyone — parents, siblings, pets — even for the nana.

For the past half hour I’ve been sitting on a beanbag playing “prison guard.” To my right, the room is filled with delights: Cars, trucks, trains, books and billions of Legos.

To my left is a different kind of delight: Bunk beds holding two small prisoners. In the top bunk, my 4-yearold grandson, Randy, snores softly like a wood-chipper set on idle. In the lower bunk, his 2-year-old brother, Wiley, has been thrashing about like a sumo wrestler riding bareback on a meth-crazed crocodile.

My job as prison guard has been to keep Wiley in his bunk until one of us falls asleep.

Lucky for me, he caved first. One minute he had the devil in his grin, and 30 minutes later, he was sleeping like an angel.

Meanwhile, down the hall, the boys’ newborn sister — her majesty Eleanor Rose — reigns supreme on the throne/crib of her elegant pink nursery.

Do you wonder who’s in charge here? It’s Eleanor. When she wants to eat, her mama feeds her. When she wants to be held, her daddy puts her on his big shoulder and paces to and fro. And when she wants to sleep? We all try to be quiet.

How can someone so little get to be in charge of the world? It’s an unspoken rule of newborns. They get what they want/need whenever they want/need it. And everybody else has to be patient. Even her brothers.

That’s not to say they have to like it. As Wiley told his mama not long before his sister was born: “No like baby. Never.”

But somehow they accepted it. The boys had their turn as king. Now it’s “long live the queen.” It helps, of course, that the queen is ridiculously cute. Thick dark hair. Heartshaped face. Starfish hands. Toes like her nana’s. I wish you could see her. Even Wiley couldn’t resist. When they met her, Randy said, “Look, Wiley, it’s our sister!”

And Wiley grinned his devil/angel grin and said, “Awww!”

As a consolation prize for losing the throne, the boys get (drumroll, please) me. I’m their nana. I’m not real exciting, but I mean well. And I work cheap.

Randy likes me a lot. He’s had four years to get used to me. Wiley will like me, too, I tell myself. He just needs more one-on-one time. Don’t we all?

So today, while Randy went out on a date with his aunt, Mama fed Eleanor and Daddy worked on projects for the house, I hung out with Wiley.

We scooped sand in the sandbox, loading and emptying his dump truck 50 times, give or take. I got pretty good at it.

We stacked pebbles in piles until the piles fell apart. Wiley thought that was hilarious. We played basketball, soccer and dodge ball and ran a NASCAR race with his tricycle. He was the driver. I was the pit crew. But we won as a team.

We sat on the deck pointing up at passing clouds, flocks of geese and a pale crescent moon. Then he led me by the hand to a corner of the yard and showed me where the dogs had pooped.

There’s nothing special about one-on-one time except it’s one-on-one. It’s a small thing, but small things matter. Tonight, in the throes of Wiley’s thrashing, I rested my head on his bunk and suddenly he grew still. I could feel him watching me. I could hear him breathing.

Then he leaned over, wrapped his chunky arms about my neck and whispered something that sounded like “I love you, nana.”

Or maybe “I want a banana.”

Then he patted my head with his small hand, and I heard him loud and clear. Small things don’t just matter. Sometimes they change your world.