The first time I saw my future spouse:

She says: “I was surprised. He was so good-looking.” He says: “It wasn’t the picture. It was more about what she had written in her profile that I liked. What she had written was beautiful and exactly what I needed.” On our wedding day:

She says: “I was very excited to have found someone and after all that angst, after I settled and accepted that this was OK, I was very excited.”

He says: “We were locked out of our bedroom.”

My advice for a long happy marriage is:

She says: “Have grace. You have to let things go. You can’t just hang onto things and get your feelings hurt all the time. You have to give everybody the benefit of the doubt. You have to say, ‘He’s probably having a bad day. He didn’t mean that.’ You really have to be open-handed and not get your feelings hurt.”

He says: “Everybody makes mistakes, including me. You need to be able to let the mistake go and show the other person forgiveness and love in those situations. That’s the best thing you can do.”