Reading husband’s records was a violation of the law

Dear Abby: “Concerned inMassachusetts” (Feb. 20) used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs. I’maregistered nurse with 40 years’ experience. Every health care organization I know of teaches all their employees about HIPAA violations and that accessing private patient medical information is a criminal offense. We have specific policies against using one’s employee status to access a relative’smedical information.

“Concerned” is lucky she stillhas a job. Atmy institution, she would be terminated for violating organizational policy and federal law. She wouldn’t have to worry about how to broach the subject with her husband; she’d be explaining why she was fired. Hemay not be a saint, but neither is she. Her actions were unacceptable and reflect a clear lack of integrity and honesty. — Safeguarding the Right to Privacy

Dear Safeguarding: Thank you for your response. You are not the only reader who was appalled at what “Concerned” had done. Read on:

Dear Abby: Like “Concerned’s” husband, I, too, amlabeled as high risk for STDs based on amedical survey I completed, although I have had a monogamous 30-year marriage and do not do drugs of any kind. In that survey, they asked how many partners I had in my lifetime. Those few others were before I met my wife.

“Concerned” indicated that her husband had been treated twice for STDs “some years back.” What does that mean? Were they married then? If not, is he labeled high risk due to his previous behavior? Perhaps there is something deeper in the relationship that needs addressing — such as why there are weeks between sexual contact with her husband.

It’s ironic that she’s bent out of shape over infidelity concerns, but thinks it acceptable to betray the ethics rules governing medical professionals. — Vincent in West Virginia

Dear Abby: “Young at Heart inTexas” (Feb. 9) could have writtenmy story. I amalso a 70-year-old man who is sexually dysfunctional. I, too, was lonely, having outlived two of my brides. However, I did find someone who appreciates holding hands and whispering sweet words withoutmore physical contact.

Abby, you said: “Not only do I think you can (find companionship), I suspect youmay need police protection to control the crowd of applicants. Years ago, my aunt, the late Ann Landers, polled her female readers asking if they would prefer ‘holding and cuddling’ to actually doing ‘the deed.’ Themajority of them answered in the affirmative.”

My first wife died of a heart attack after 30 years ofmarriage. My second wife died after eight years of marriage, of kidney cancer. At 71, Imarriedmy third wife, a wonderful woman just as you both describe. She was my next-door neighbor. We have been married three years and ninemonths. We also enjoy cuddling, evenwithout doing “the deed.”

So I say to “Young at Heart inTexas”: YES, you can findawomansuch as you andAbby describe. And whenyou do, I suggest you rub her back often. Women love it! — Young at Heart in Colorado

Dear Young at Heart: I’m glad your story had a happy ending, and I’mcrossing my fingers that “Young at Heart’s” will, too.