Rel­a­tives anx­ious about em­brac­ing new boyfriend

Austin American-Statesman - - THE PLANNER - Jeanne Phillips Dear Abby

Dear Abby: My hus­band’s brother split from his wife, “Char­lotte,” five years ago and now works and lives in an­other coun­try. The brothers are still quite close. His school-age daugh­ters live nearby and are close to their cousins, our daugh­ters.

Char­lotte’s lat­est boyfriend (they have been dat­ing for 18 months) has started in­sist­ing on hang­ing out with my hus­band and try­ing to “bond” with him. He is also jump­ing with both feet into the role of step­fa­ther, es­pe­cially with the younger daugh­ter, who has just re­turned af­ter liv­ing with her fa­ther for the last seven months.

It feels awk­ward and weird, but we are too po­lite to say any­thing to him or Char­lotte be­cause we’re afraid she’ll re­strict us from see­ing our nieces. What is your ad­vice? — Anx­ious in Aus­tralia

Dear Anx­ious: Not know­ing the terms of your brother-in-law’s di­vorce, my ad­vice is to con­sider that Char­lotte has been with this man for a year and a half. He may be try­ing to form a re­la­tion­ship with your hus­band be­cause he wants to bond with “the rel­a­tives.” Your hus­band doesn’t have to be best friends with him, but he should keep the re­la­tion­ship cor­dial — not only for the nieces, but also so his brother can stay in­formed about them.

Dear Abby: I have an ad­dic­tion to vi­ta­min gum­mies. They say to eat only two a day, but I eat al­most half a con­tainer a day. They’re SOOO good.

This has been a prob­lem for five years. What should I do? Do I con­tact my doc­tor? I’m about to grad­u­ate from high school, and I think my new college friends will think I’m weird if they find out about my gummy ad­dic­tion. — Loves Yummy Gum­mies in Penn­syl­va­nia

Dear Loves: I am glad you wrote. Your vi­ta­mins may taste like candy, but they are NOT candy. It is im­por­tant that you dis­cuss this with your doc­tor. The least of your trou­bles could be that your college friends make fun of you. What you have been do­ing is danger­ous be­cause it can cause un­safe lev­els of vi­ta­min A, vi­ta­min E and min­er­als like iron to reach toxic lev­els in your sys­tem.

Dear Abby: I have a sug­ges­tion about how to help the child with the bro­ken glasses men­tioned in the let­ter from “Try­ing to Help in the West” (Feb. 25). I’m a mem­ber of Lions Clubs In­ter­na­tional. Our lo­cal club do­nates the cost of vis­ual screen­ing and free glasses for those in need who seek our help.

The Lions were es­tab­lished in 1917 by a busi­ness­man who wanted to start a ser­vice club that would help im­prove com­mu­ni­ties. The idea quickly spread to other com­mu­ni­ties and be­came in­ter­na­tional.

In 1925, He­len Keller in­spired the clubs to be­come “knights of the blind in the cru­sade against dark­ness.” Since then, Lions have worked tire­lessly to aid blind and visu­ally im­paired in­di­vid­u­als in the U.S. and all over the world. Ser­vices for the boy in the let­ter should be avail­able in his area, or he can be di­rected to the clos­est lo­cal Lions Club. — Mem­ber in West Long Branch, N.J.

Dear Mem­ber: Thank you for re­mind­ing me about the good work the Lions Clubs do. Any­one want­ing fur­ther in­for­ma­tion about this worth­while ser­vice or­ga­ni­za­tion can find it at­on­

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