Shakira exhibit coming to museum Wife’s trust gone after husband unfaithful
Shakira’s two outfits worn during a Super Bowl halftime performance in 2020, her handwritten lyrics and her heavily crystalized electric guitar are among the items that will be on display for a museum exhibit in Los Angeles.
The Grammy Museum announced Thursday that the Grammy winner will have her first exhibit opening March 4. The exhibit, “Shakira, Shakira: The Grammy Museum Experience,” will feature 40 artifacts from her personal archive in the museum’s Latin music gallery.
The museum exhibit will explore Shakira’s musical evolution, from her origin as a Latin performer in Colombia to reaching global superstardom as a performer who spans several genres, including bachata, rock, Bhangra and reggaeton.
“It’s an honor to have the journey of my career displayed at the Grammy Museum,” Shakira said in a statement. “These pieces are a testament to so many indelible moments that I cherish, and I’m so happy to be able to relive these memories with those who have and continue to support me as an artist.”
Mars enlists Rudolph for ad:
Mars says it’s pausing using its trademark M&M’s spokescandies and has enlisted actor Maya Rudolph to star in its marketing efforts, including its upcoming Super Bowl ad campaign.
Mars revamped the M&M candies last year to give them more nuanced personalities. The green M&M ditched high-heeled boots in favor of sneakers, and the brown candy opted for lower heels. Some fans weren’t happy about the changes and took to social media to complain.
In a post on social media last week, Mars said it was taking an “indefinite” pause on using the spokescandies.
“Now we get it — even a candy’s shoes can be polarizing,” the statement said. “Which was the last thing M&M’s wanted since we’re all about bringing people together.”
Mars didn’t say how long the pause would last. Some likened the news to a publicity stunt that Planters tried in 2020 when it announced it was “killing off ” its beloved spokescharacter Mr. Peanut ahead of the game only to have a baby Mr. Peanut appear in the ad that aired during the Super Bowl.
This year’s Super Bowl will air Feb. 12 on Fox.
Bianco, Manson settle lawsuit:
Actor Esme Bianco has agreed to settle a federal lawsuit filed in 2021 with rocker Marilyn Manson in which she alleged sexual, physical and emotional abuse, according to their
attorneys.
Bianco reached the agreement in her lawsuit against Manson and his record company “in order to move on with her life and career,” her lawyer Jay Ellwanger said in an email.
Howard King, Manson’s attorney, also confirmed the agreement in an email. He previously said the actions alleged in the suit “simply never happened” and were “probably false.”
A Tuesday court filing says a request for dismissal, which remains subject to a judge’s approval, will be filed in the next 45 days. Details of the terms were not released.
Actor Gene Hackman is 93. Actor Vanessa Redgrave is 86. Singer Norma Jean is 85. Singer William King is 74. Musician Phil Collins is 72. Actor Charles S. Dutton is 72. Actor Ann Dowd is 67. Actor Christian Bale is 49. Actor Olivia Colman is 49. Actor Wilmer Valderrama is 43. Actor Kylie Bunbury is 34.
Jan. 30 birthdays:
Dear Amy: Almost 10 years ago, my wife discovered that I had been cheating on her, emotionally and physically, and that I had a porn addiction I couldn’t control. We separated for a year but eventually ended up back together.
Years of therapy and support groups helped me to become the man I really want to be. And accountability, both digital and in the real world, help my wife to see that I remain faithful and dedicated.
Alas, at the age of 40, I feel that I spent most of my 30s living like a grounded teenager. I have freedom working for myself, but I’m not really allowed to use it.
All I want to do is surf and spend time in the ocean, but my wife is convinced this will lead to me cheating on her.
Despite the fact that she can see my location at all times, and has full access to all my devices and every inch of my life, I think she has some trauma that therapy didn’t really heal. Any anger I have will always be outweighed by a greater anger that she can generate. I don’t want to be ignorant of her needs, but I’m slipping into depression. I told myself I wouldn’t live like this in my 40s.
My wife seems to have no intention of loosening her grip on my life. It is destroying my well-being.
I’m essentially the sole breadwinner, and I live today as a dedicated husband and partner. I’ve submitted to her every need for accountability.
Is it wrong to put my foot down and take a bit of my life back?
— Betrayer Dear Betrayer:
You and your wife are both trapped by the breach in trust caused by your infidelity. But just how long is this jail sentence supposed to last?
After 10 years of therapy, transparency and fidelity, you’ve proven that you want to and are able to remain faithful and trustworthy. If you are this unhappy and angry in your marriage and haven’t slipped back into your addictive behavior, your recovery seems a solid success.
Your wife has been living in a state of hypervigilance. This is damaging to her physical and mental health. She should resume therapy, and her goal should not be to change or retrain you, but to retrain her own brain away from rumination and anger and toward balance and trust.
It seems logical that if you both want to stay in this marriage but don’t want to stay trapped, then you should take this trust out for a spin. Go surfing for the day. Your wife will have to feel her feelings, understand her anxiety and find ways to cope.
If she spends a lot of time policing you, she may also have to find other ways to fill that time with a job, a hobby, friends and interests of her own.
I’m a procrastinator unless I have deadlines. How can I deal with this?
— Practiced Procrastinator
Dear Amy: Dear Procrastinator:
You’ve taken your question to the master procrastinator, Grasshopper.
Like many writers, I’ve perfected the fine art of procrastination, although
I view it differently than I used to. I now see procrastination as being a potentially positive aspect of the creative process because I tend to get a lot of things done while I’m busy putting off getting other things done. (Procrastinating writers tend to have very tidy houses.)
Starting can often be the hardest part. (I call this, “Opening the envelope.”)
If you can force yourself to open the envelope, click on the email, assign a title to the word document, schedule the Zoom call, you will have started. Work will often flow from simply getting started.
And yes, deadlines help — so set a deadline for yourself and offer yourself a small reward for meeting your deadline. Your self-imposed deadline might look like this: “I’ll start the project at 11 today. After I’ve done my work, I’ll reward myself with one episode of ‘Seinfeld.’ ”
Dear Amy: I was dismayed by your response to “Tempting Trainer,” the total jerk who has fathered babies with two of his clients.
You suggested that he should “double up” on his condoms. While I assume this was a joke, actually doing this would result in the condoms tearing.
— Concerned
Dear Concerned: Several readers contacted me with this concern. Yes, I was joking, but I appreciate the concern and correction.