Marriage is supposed to be fun
Idon't know what the secret to a good marriage is. I only know I have a good one that has been fun, exciting and full of adventure.
On our way to celebrate out 60th wedding anniversary in Santa
Fe, we stopped for lunch at the
Cowboy Café in Roswell. When we got ready to pay, the waitress told us the bill for our meal had already been paid. We couldn't understand it. Nobody knew we were there and I didn't recognize anyone in the place. “It was from a random person,” said the waitress.
It's difficult to explain our feelings. We were grateful and had a very good feeling but at the same time we were puzzled. Still, the euphoria stayed with us a long time. When we arrived at Buffalo Thunder, the resort where we had reservations, our room had been upgraded to a suite. Two good things, both unexpected.
We've had similar things happen to us. On our 50th anniversary we were on a cruise to South America. Our stateroom had been upgraded to a large suite on the back end of the ship with all the amenities, including stationery with our names on it.
Before celebrating this latest milestone we were with friends who asked us, “What's the secret to a good marriage?”
There is no secret that I know of, but I do know some things that have kept our marriage vibrant and alive. I think you should love each other above all and enjoy each other's company. When one of us says something the other one should answer. When there is no response things are left up in the air. We eat together, play games, travel, read a lot and celebrate something every chance we get. Sometimes a gift means more when there's no celebration or holiday. By all means, when you have errands to run don't leave the house without saying goodbye.
In any marriage I thick medical or dental issues should be discussed openly.
It's no fun to be surprised when your spouse has a doctor's appointment you didn't know about. You should talk about everything. I think you should make travel a glorious experience. Once I put a rose on Susan's bed pillow that had two plane tickets and tickets to the Rose Parade. Of course she said, “Who should I take?” Another time when we were going to New York as a surprise I gave her a copy of the New York Times with a couple of plane tickets and hotel reservations. Once on a surprise trip to Minnesota i put earmuffs on a dummy head.
On our honeymoon to Mazatlan in 1963, I gave Susan $20, which she promptly lost. This year on the inside of the anniversary card I gave her were two ten-dollar bills. She laughed.
We had all 12 members of our immediate family at our house for a weekend before leaving for Santa Fe. Our two sons wrote a song about us.
The oldest, Kevin, wrote and sang it. Our young son BZ composed music for it.
Tears flowed.