Living with cancer

A life with cancer is full of appointments, uncertainty, managing side effects and newfound challenges. There are many highs and lows that come along with the journey. The changes that you and your loved ones experience during this time are huge adjustments. Be patient with yourself as you determine what this all will mean to you and your life.

Introducing the “New Normal”

Cancer may result in:

• Altered routines

• Changed roles and duties in your family • Strained or strengthened relationships • Challenges in dealing with money and insurance • The need for help with daily activities

The Loss of Control

Those living with cancer and their caregivers often feel powerless over what is so directly impacting them. It can feel like some invisible force is directly managing your life. For many, the most difficult but most important thing they can do is — to the extent that it’s possible — stop taking care of others and be okay with relinquishing control.

Physical + Mental + Emotional Health

Allow yourself to feel the spectrum of emotions that naturally come with your condition’s bumpy ride. Remember there is no right or wrong way to feel or behave. Don’t judge yourself for your feelings. Don’t be afraid to tell people what you need from them and what type of response is helpful to you. Every emotion is a normal one. Denial, anger, fear, stress and anxiety, depression, sadness, guilt and loneliness are all feelings that can go hand in hand with a cancer diagnosis. Feelings of hope, gratitude and optimism can also result. All of these feelings can come and go, sometimes even all in one single day. A collaborative dialogue with the oncologist and other medical professionals, support from family and friends and attending support groups both for the caregiver and patient is an important way to figure out how you are feeling. No matter what, practice self-compassion by accepting each and every part of who you are each day and prioritizing your self-care.