Friendship focus

Having cancer or having a loved one with cancer affects your mind, spirit and lifestyle. Spouses, children and families feel the waves of the diagnosis. Your relationships with your friends and/or co-workers can also be affected. For some, cancer amplifies the bonds and appreciation for those in their life. Others might have concerns about certain friendships or have felt underwhelmed by the level of support they’ve received. There is no way to ensure that you won’t be disappointed or hurt by a friendship or dynamic. You are not responsible for whether or not your friendships last through this time in your life, but you can help them help you. Take the opportunity when you can (even if you aren’t asked) to express how you can be supported. Simply say, “Actually – you could help me with something ...”

Suggestions for long-distance friends:

• Stay on pulse and reach out to me more

• Tell me about your life and ask my advice

• Respond/answer my outreaches in a timely manner

• Give me some space and be patient as I figure things out

• Set up a time to have a quality phone conversation or video call or

come visit

• Reach out to me on days that you sense might be tough (certain

appointments, holidays, anniversaries, etc.)