Let’s be honest

End-of-life planning involves topics that are hard to talk about with those we love. Many people feel unsettled talking about advanced care planning or end-of-life planning because it reminds them of losing someone they care about. Mortality is often a large concern in a family with a serious illness. The sooner these crucial conversations take place, the sooner you and others can move on in comfort, knowing things are handled.

The right time

Everyone, with a serious health condition or not, should have these items in order. It is so important for people with a life-threatening illness and their family and caregivers to be able to talk about their fears, challenges, hopes and dreams. It’s not always about holding out hope for an unlikely cure, but instead creating days of purpose and meaning. You may have a friend or family member who can listen without giving unsolicited advice. Sometimes the best medicine is just being safe to say what you are thinking and feeling without being judged. It will never feel like the right time to take care of this. Try to tackle these difficult conversations with loved ones:

In a casual environment where you can think clearly. Steer clear of hospital beds or days when illness is too heavy for these chats.

While you have energy, strength and feel healthy

In stages — No one says you have to handle all of these important topics in one sitting. Break it up and discuss things in bits and pieces so that it seems less overwhelming.