A MOMENT IN TIME, A LIFETIME OF DEALING
Now 73 and living in Chattanooga to be near Vincent, who came to Chattanooga as a quarterback at the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga in the mid-’80s, Carelli-Gilbert is finishing up one novel called “The Debaucher” about a man whose appearance in a small town disrupts many lives; she also has plans to write a completely different series with a few recurring characters.
The crash even played a part in her interest in writing.
Immediately after the tragedy, she began writing notes and letters to her young children, telling them about their late father. It became a biography of sorts, then her own love story.
“I was a cheerleader and he was a football player and then we got married. It was a perfect story.”
The letters grew into a book called “Kismet Consummated: A Mother’s Memoir,” published in 1975. Not really happy with the first draft, Carelli-Gilbert made some changes and additions and it was republished as “Halftime,” a title that fit her life, she says.
“I felt like the first half of my life was over and I was over one hump and needed to get ready for the next,” she says.
The book, republished in 1990 with an epilogue and updates, has connected with readers and to this day Carelli-Gilbert gets requests for it and for public-speaking appearances. Not a lot, she points out, but enough.
“Always from Marshall people,” she says. “Now I’m getting requests from people who were kids at the time and who want to know what happened.”
Carolyn Baylous was a teacher in the Cabell County school system in West Virginia when the crash happened; she has remained a close friend of Carelli-Gilbert. She
knew more than a few people who died in the crash, so “Halftime” remains an important book for her. At its heart, she says, it is a love story and a fun book to read — “Right up to the crash.”
“I’ve read it 20 times,” she says. “I was there through the whole thing. It is a very heart-wrenching book. Marti sat down right after the funeral and wrote these letters for those boys so they would know how wonderful their dad was. I read them the other day and cried my eyes out.
“She wrote this book for Vincent and Ronnie. It was a labor of love, and you can see it in every word.”
Carelli-Gilbert says she’s never taken money for a copy of the book whenever people request it, nor does she charge for speaking engagements. Her supply of books is running short, though, so she was happy to learn it now is available digitally. Today she carries business cards that tell people how to get it on their Kindle or Apple device.
When she was writing “Halftime,” Carelli-Gilbert discovered she wrote best by the water in Virginia Beach, Va., where she lived at the time. Today, Chickamauga Lake is her muse. And while she’s still writing, she has no plans to write about the plane crash again, but it has certainly informed her experiences.
MOVING ON
Following the crash, Carelli-Gilbert says she had to move forward. Vincent’s birthday was just a few days after the crash, and she started taking the boys
to her in-laws and leaving them for a week.
“I wanted them to know their grandparents,” she says. “People said I was wrong to leave my sons.”
She also made plans to move away from Huntington, W.Va., though she was delayed because was being told she couldn’t by court officials. She and her husband had not made a will, so there were questions of who got the boys.
Insurance companies also were battling over whether the flight would be classified as a charter or passenger flight, she says, which would determine if the families would be awarded insurance money. They eventually were.
During that first year, Carelli-Gilbert spent time with Jim Gilbert, a Marshall booster, who was originally to have been on the ill-fated flight but never made it. After the crash, he offered to help the Carelli family in any way he could; the two spent a good deal of time together and eventually married. Carelli-Gilbert says she did so more out of some sense of obligation than love.
“Let’s just say I didn’t know what I was doing,” she shrugs.
They had a son together, adopted a baby girl and stayed married for 19 years. They divorced in 1990, and she remarried in 1992.
Over the years, Carelli-Gilbert has worked twice for the Red Cross as a safety specialist and for Cracker Barrel in development. But there was always a hole in her life.
“I was never happy,” she says. “Always underneath, I was looking for Al to walk in the door again. There was no goodbye.”
But for whatever reason, reaching her 60th birthday marked a significant change in her life, she says.
“I came to a place of peace, I suppose,” she says. “I don’t think about the crash, but if the kids or anyone tells me they will be arriving at such and such a time and they are going to be late, they’d better call.”