When we seize onto the strength of God, we grow
Q: My oldest daughter died of cancer after several years of pain and heartache. She was unable to raise her children and had to depend on others to do so. Her testimony was remarkable, and though I raised her to love and serve the Lord, I’m struggling to follow my own advice; that we should give thanks to God in everything. Why can’t I see how this can be applied honestly? — B.H.
A: The Bible tells us to be thankful to God in all things (see 1 Thessalonians 5:18). It’s not that we thank God that loved ones have been taken from us, but if they’re Christians, we are thankful that they’re in Heaven where pain and death will never touch them again. Be thankful that God is with us in our own grief. God is still in control — even when we don’t understand all that happens in this sin-scarred world. Like the Apostle Paul, we can be sorrowful yet always rejoicing (see 2 Corinthians 6:10).
It’s important that we confess to God how we really feel. He already knows it, of course, but we need to be honest
with Him. We must always remember the pain that Jesus endured for us on the cross. He suffered unlike anyone in all of history. Christ was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief (see Isaiah 53:3). He knows about suffering and He wants to help us in our own times of despair, whether from loneliness, anger, or any other emotion that grips us.
When we seize God’s strength, we grow with a deeper sense of God’s love and we begin to feel His comfort. He came “to comfort all who mourn … to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise” (Isaiah 61:2–3, NKJV). When we know the Lord in a personal way — when we belong to Him as His child — He will restore our joy and bring peace into our lives.