Ex-girl­friend gets new guy and dog she al­ways wanted

He re­grets his stand on pets and wants her back ASK DOG LADY |

Chicago Sun-Times - - Commentary - MON­ICA COLLINS

Dear Dog Lady: I’ve been re­cov­er­ing from a bad breakup and look­ing for wis­dom wher­ever I can. I heard my old girl­friend has a new boyfriend and a new dog. She al­way s wanted a dog when we were to­gether but I have never liked an­i­mals and wasn’t in­ter­ested. I find the dog news trou­bles me more than the boyfriend news. It means her life is more to­gether than mine at this point. Right now, I’d take her back dog and all. How could I re ach out?

Al , C h i c a go Dear Al:

The best way to re ach out is to leave her alone. Don’t be weird and hang on. Dog Lady un­der­stands why the dog news might be more trou­bling than the boyfriend news be­cause mak­ing room for an an­i­mal in our lives re­quires ma­tu­rity and re­spon­si­bil­ity. She’s moved on to a place where she has cham­bers in her heart for new re­la­tion­ships with a dog and a boyfriend — not you.

In a vin­tage “This Amer­i­can Life” story pro­duced by WBEZ Chicago P ublic Ra­dio, host Ira Glass pon­ders the ver­i­ties of de - cou­pling. Glass makes the point that an ex with a Rex sends a clear sig­nal the af­fair is re­ally fi­nis.

Dogs fill the empty space s af­ter breakups. You should try it. Vol­un­teer to walk dogs at an an­i­mal shel­ter. The ex­pe­ri­ence could put you in touch with your in­ner hound. You never know what crea­ture you might meet. Dear Dog Lady:

We have two dogs, a black Lab, Raven, and a dachs­hund, Cin­na­mon. Both are sweet-tem­pered dogs es­pe­cially Cin­na­mon. Both are neutered, but the dachs­hund al­ways wants to ride the Lab’s leg. Both are fe­males. We give them both con­stant at­ten­tion. They are never home alone for longer than a few hours. S o I don’t think Cin­na­mon craves at­ten­tion. Raven looks at her like she’s nuts and just lays there un­til some­one no­tices her and puts a stop to it.

The vet­eri­nar­ian says some dogs do that but I don’t know. My hus­band has been sick, and Cin­na­mon is his con­stant com­pan­ion as well as mine. Raven is an aloof dog. She would rather be out chas­ing squir­rels. Any light you can shine on this prob­lem would be ap­pre­ci­ated.

M a rg a re t , D e s P l a i n e s Dear Mar­garet:

Noth­ing to worry about as long as Raven re­mains the tol­er­ant humpee. Dogs in­dulge in this be­hav­ior to ex­ert dom­i­nance or sim­ply to send a spe­cial mas­terly mount­ing mes­sage as Cin­na­mon must try to give Raven. The act looks weird to hu­mans — a dog grind­ing at a hu­man leg, a dog leg, or mounted on an­other dog — but in their ca­nine - cen­tric world, it’s pretty nor­mal. A hap­less minia­ture poo­dle has mounted Dog Lady’s dog since they were pup­pies 10 years ago. Dar­ling grins and bears it un­til we hu­mans sep­a­rate them. Af­ter all, what’s a lit­tle hump­ing among fixed friends? Be like Raven and try to ig­nore this Cin­na­mon schtick. Dear Read­ers:

Speak­ing of hot dogs, save the date. Dog Lady calls your at­ten­tion to the S econd An­nual Red Hot Hot Dog Days on Satur­day, July 26, from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m., and Sun­day, July 27, from noon to 5 p.m. at Red Dog House, 2031 N. Da­men Av­enue, as part of the Wicker Park Buck­town Side­walk Sale.

The Mid­west Dachs­hund Res­cue will be show­ing off wiener woofers avail­able for adop­tion and an­swer­ing all your ques­tions about their care and feed­ing. The Red Dog House will be giv­ing away Chicago -style hot dogs from Red Hot Chicago. G o sup­port a very good cause for paws.

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