SYMPATHY NOT ENOUGH FOR VICTIMS
Culture change, concrete action needed to fight abuse
For several hours, McKayla Maroney sat on her bedroom floor and explained to FBI agents, in graphic detail, the many times she’d been sexually abused by Larry Nassar.
Telling strangers about the worst moments in her life was difficult and uncomfortable. But the Olympic gold medalist did it anyway because she believed it would protect other young women from similar horrors.
She was crying as she finished. On the other end of the phone, dead silence. Until, finally, a question:
“Is that all?”
“Those words in itself were one of the worst moments of this entire process for me,” Maroney recalled Wednesday during a Senate Judiciary Committee hearing on the FBI’s mishandling of the Nassar abuse case. “To have my abuse minimized and disregarded by the people who were supposed to protect me, just to feel like my abuse was not enough.” Unfortunately, it still isn’t. Powerful as it was to see Maroney, Simone Biles, Aly Raisman and Maggie Nichols in that Senate hearing room and listen to their accounts of how they were betrayed and failed by the FBI and others who were supposed to protect them, it also felt hollow. Many of the senators tripping over themselves to express empathy for these women are the very same ones who, either by action or inaction, have thought nothing of doing harm to other women.
They doubted and disparaged the women who accused then-Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexual abuse. They supported President Donald Trump despite more than a dozen credible allegations of abuse. They stood by the past four years as the Department of Education watered down Title IX, making women on university campuses less safe.
And it’s not just them. The same people who express indignation on behalf of Nassar’s most famous survivors rarely muster the same outrage for the hundreds and thousands of anonymous women who are abused, instead asking what they did to put themselves in that situation or wondering why they didn’t report. Those who express disgust at the atmosphere that allowed Nassar to prey on hundreds of girls and young women are silent about the culture of toxic masculinity that created it.
It is uncomfortable to draw comparisons between the compassion shown to the Nassar survivors and the cruelty with which others who’ve been abused are treated. But abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum.
Firing the FBI agent who ignored Maroney’s complaint and then, almost two years later, spun a false narrative out of it, might bring a measure of satisfaction. But it doesn’t change the attitudes that caused it to happen in the first place.
Of course, the Nassar survivors want answers. They are owed that, at the very least.
What they want more, what prompted them to come forward in the first place, was to ensure this doesn’t happen again. To change the culture, in the Olympic movement and beyond, so that women who come forward are trusted and believed.
To re-educate all of society so sexual violence doesn’t occur in the first place.
“To be clear, I blame Larry Nassar,” Biles said. “And I also blame an entire system that enabled and perpetrated his abuse.”
The members of the Judiciary Committee
will no doubt be proud of themselves for the hearing, which dominated news coverage throughout the day Wednesday. But did they actually learn anything?
I’m not talking about getting FBI Director Christopher Wray to confirm that Michael Langeman, the lead agent in the Nassar case, had been fired. I’m talking about substantive changes all institutions could implement to make women and children safer and feel more protected.
It didn’t go unnoticed that some of the senators so eager to speak when the gymnasts were in front of them were silent when it came to pressing the people actually in a position to do something, Wray and Michael Horowitz, the inspector general of the Justice Department.
It has been five years since Nassar’s crimes were revealed publicly, yet the survivors live with that trauma every day. Biles alluded to having to withdraw from several events at the Tokyo Olympics, saying, “The impacts of this man’s abuse are not ever over or forgotten.” It’s the same for every other survivor of sexual violence.
Maybe the next time a woman comes forward to accuse a Supreme Court nominee or a president, a few senators will remember that, and show her the same kind of empathy they were so eager to show at Wednesday’s hearing.