Study: Tying the knot means a happier relationship over cohabitation

WASHINGTON — New research shows — for the first time — that younger adults are more likely to have shared a home with a partner than a spouse, but that cohabitation doesn’t deliver the same levels of happiness, trust and wellbeing that marriage can bring.

Some 59% of those 18 to 44 have had a live-in partner without being married, according to a study by the Pew Research Center, compared with 50% who’ve walked down the aisle. That’s a reversal from as recently as 2002, when more Americans in that age bracket had experienced marriage.

But while cohabitation is on the rise, data from Pew and other sources continue to show that married Americans enjoy greater overall happiness, as well as greater satisfaction with their relationships. The marriage happiness premium extends to nearly every aspect of a couple’s relationship, with one notable exception: their sex lives.

Social scientists have known for some time that married people tend to be happier than their single counterparts. But the recent rise of cohabitation without marriage has complicated that picture somewhat.

In recent years, the General Social Survey, a longrunning nationally representative survey of American adults, began explicitly asking respondents about their current relationship status: Are you married, cohabiting, or neither? The responses show a sort of relationship-happiness gradient, with married people reporting the most overall happiness, cohabiting partners reporting somewhat less happiness, and singletons were the least satisfied of all.

The Pew data offer additional clues as to what’s driving these numbers. For starters, married and cohabiting couples give different reasons for why they chose their current relationship setup: Married people are more likely to cite love and an eventual desire to have children, while live-in partners are more likely to note practical considerations, like convenience and finances.

This may particularly be the case in the United States, where health care costs are high and the social safety net is porous. Couples deciding to move in together to reduce their health insurance costs or save money on monthly expenses may be facing greater economic challenges than those who are able to prioritize things like commitment and children.

Married people are also more likely to say they’re happy with their partner’s parenting techniques, the division of household chores and their partner’s work/life balance.

But the married and cohabiting are on par in one realm: sex. Similar percentages of each report being very satisfied with their sex life.