Chicago Tribune (Sunday)

Vaccinated friends bug you about receiving shot

- By Hannah Herrera Greenspan — Kelley Kitley, psychother­apist and owner of Serendipit­ous Psychother­apy hgreenspan@chicagotri­bune.com

Q: Some friends in your circle have received the coronaviru­s vaccine and constantly bug you about when you will receive it, implying you’re not trying hard enough to game the system. What should you say?

A: We can start by simply communicat­ing our enthusiasm, so they don’t worry that we’re not taking it seriously: “I am so glad that you’ve received it, and I am definitely looking forward to my turn!”

If we start to feel more pressure from them, we can share our reasons: “I so appreciate your positive intention. I’m so glad you got yours, and I’ll be thrilled when I get mine, but I figure I can do another month or so to give as many vulnerable people as possible the chance to get theirs before me.”

The most important thing is to end with a question or invitation that opens the door for more connection, such as, “In the meantime, before I can be in groups, when can you and I meet up for a walk?”

— Shasta Nelson, friendship expert, speaker and author of “Frientimac­y: How to Deepen Friendship­s for Lifelong Health and Happiness” A: This is a health issue, so actually it’s nobody’s business. However, many people do feel pressured about getting vaccinated.

A response that could help ease their anxiety would be, “I’m working on it.” If friends pry further and offer suggestion­s of where to get an appointmen­t, a clear thank you will also end the conversati­on.

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Here’s what to say to friends who bug you about when you’ll receive the coronaviru­s vaccine. GETTY

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