Relative reveals sordid story to prevent wedding
TCM, beginning at 7:45 a.m.
Memorial Day marathon, which has been going since Friday night, continues today with the documentary (1945), followed (1955),
(1944), (1956) and (1958). In primetime,
by
(1930), (1943),
(1965), (1965) and (1949).
TCM’s Memorial Day lineup will cross over with the final installment of its monthlong Monday celebration of famed Japanese actor Sessue Hayakawa and feature two of the star’s later films, both set during World War II: (1950) and
(1957), for which Hayakawa received a Best Supporting Actor Oscar nomination for his role as Col. Saito. Following these titles, TCM’s marathon concludes with
(1943) and
(1941).
Dear Abby: My boyfriend of three years recently proposed.
The issue is he’s the great-nephew of the man who jilted my great-aunt at the altar in the 1970s. My aunt dated his great-uncle for financial reasons, which she has admitted. She tried to ensure he would stay with her by “baby trapping” him and telling him he had to marry her. He agreed until the day arrived – and he didn’t show.
This shouldn’t be important to the current situation because it was decades ago, and I barely know my greataunt.
She didn’t even know my fiance’s name until the most recent family reunion when I mentioned our engagement and my soon-to-be last name. She freaked out and demanded he leave her house! She told me not to marry him, and said his family was all the same.
I don’t like my great-aunt much, but after this controversy, her children and her siblings are threatening to shun me if I marry him. The wedding is in five months, and I’m torn. Family is important to me, and while I’m not close to her, I made it a mission to be closer to her kids (my cousins) and relatives as I grew older. I know what happened to her hurt her a lot, but I feel her demand is outrageous.
What should I do? Should I postpone the wedding?
Past Drama in the Present
Dear Past Drama: Let me get this straight. Your aunt tried to trap a young man into marriage by claiming she was having his child.
Did she have the baby, and was the father’s paternity ever established?
If your fiance’s uncle got wind of the fact that he was being falsely accused and that your aunt not only didn’t love him but was after him for financial gain, who can blame him for running? I certainly don’t.
The decision you now must make is whether you want to break an engagement to your fiance (whom I presume you know well and love after three years) or cave in to the emotional blackmail of your ethically challenged aunt. I know what I would do.
This may be your chance to “break the curse.”
Dear Readers: Along with the millions of Americans who are observing this Memorial Day, I add my own prayer of thanks for those courageous men and women who have sacrificed their lives in service to our country. May they rest in peace.
Love, Abby
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