Surviving Our Darkest Days
After 35 years together, the beloved Hollywood couple reveals the betrayal that nearly tore them apart — and how their kids brought them back from the brink
No role was ever more important to Goldie Hawn than that of being a mother. “She said the only job she refused to fail at was in raising her kids,” daughter Kate Hudson, 39, shared when Goldie received her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame last year. Fittingly, Goldie’s longtime love, Kurt Russell, received his star on the same day, but Kate insisted that the duo’s greatest life achievements were made offscreen. “Their real legacy,” she said, “is the relationship they fiercely refused to lose sight of together, and the deep feeling of love and nurturing that they reserve for the most important thing we have in this life: family.”
Sticking together wasn’t always easy for the pair, however. “Everybody struggles,” Goldie, 72, admits, and her 35-year relationship with Kurt, 67, has certainly been tested through the years. The couple, who have a blended family of four children, even separated for a brief period in 2004 over alleged infidelities by both parties. “But not breaking up is their mantra,” a pal tells Closer of what ultimately reunited the two stars. “Making sure their kids felt safe and secure was always their first priority. They realized they were stronger and better off as a family than not.”
LIGHTS! CAMERA! LOVE!
“Every man and
every woman will drive
their partner crazy!”
Kurt’s kind ways and instant rapport with her two children made the former LaughIn star fall hard for him in 1983, when they were co-starring opposite each other in Swing Shift. “What really got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them,” says Goldie, who had Kate and son Oliver, 42, from her second marriage to musician and actor Bill Hudson. “He was a such a natural,” she adds of Kurt, who had a son, Boston, now 38, from his 1979 to 1983 marriage to actress Season Hubley.
Kurt and Goldie’s romance ignited quickly, and they had son, Wyatt, 32, together in 1986. Although Goldie’s kids nudged their mom to walk down the aisle with Kurt, she decided against it. “When I think about my life and my marriages, they didn’t end up all that great,”
admits Goldie, who had to pay her first husband, dancer Gus Trikonis, a $75,000 settlement to end their union. “A marriage ends up being a business deal, no matter how long or short it is,” she says. “And I was at the short end of the stick on that one.” After she divorced second husband Bill Hudson in 1982, she lost faith in the traditional institution. “Vows are made; vows are broken. Promises are made; promises are broken,” she says. “What does a piece of paper have to do with it for me?”
Ultimately, though, the freedoms she and Kurt allowed each other almost destroyed their relationship. “There was infidelity on both of their parts. Goldie admits that she and Kurt both went off course,” the insider shares. In 2000, Kurt was caught by paparazzi exit- ing a massage parlor with a less than honorable reputation. A few years later, Goldie jetted off solo to India, where she reportedly got cozy with soccer star Imran Khan, who at the time had just recently divorced. “They were both acting out a little and having trouble communicating,” an insider says. “So they called an adult time-out to get some space so tempers could cool.”
“We’ve had ups, downs, sideways and everything else,” Kurt confides to Closer of his relationship with Goldie. They even took some time apart after Goldie’s overseas adventure. “She headed to their house in Malibu while Kurt stayed at their place in Pacific Palisades. It was rough,” the insider reveals, “but ultimately they were in it for the long haul. And their children were a big part of that decision. They weren’t about to tear up their family.”
A shared devotion to their children, Goldie says, is their North Star. “No matter how rocky things get, they always find their way back to each other for the sake of their family,” the insider tells Closer. Goldie even credits the happy tribe she and Kurt created for calming her fears about any future infidelities. “Monogamy is a very tough order. We both have the same opportunities to meet interesting, exciting and gorgeous people,” she admits of the perils of their shared career in show business. “I happen to know what movies are all about. You get close to people. So, yes, I quietly, secretly hope Kurt doesn’t fall in love with somebody else, but the fact is that we have so much together that to have that fear is really just beating yourself up for no reason.”
Plus, it’s easy for Goldie to remember what made her fall for Kurt in the first place all those years ago. “He’s just about the best father God ever created,” she raves. “And he’s devoted, he’s kind, he’s smart, he’s talented and he’s got a magnificent sense of humor.” Adds the pal, “Kurt’s the only man that Goldie’s been with that makes her laugh constantly. She always wants to be joyful and to feel happy, and he indulges her in that way.”
Another secret to their successful relationship is the fact that they’ve learned to embrace their differences. Goldie, for example, is a meditation enthusiast who’s launched her own Hawn Foundation and its marquee MindUp program, which teaches kids healthy emotional and social skills.
While supportive of her endeavors, “Kurt is his own person,” Goldie says. “He has a
whole life of his own. He hunts and he does things that in a million years I wouldn’t be able to do.” He’s also thrown himself into creating and marketing his own GoGi brand of wines. Their diverse interests have even inspired them to redesign their LA home with “his and hers” wings, which allows them to still live under one roof while affording them lots of personal space.
HAPPINESS BECOMES THEM
have been long divorced if I ever married Kurt.”
Goldie and Kurt both cherish the time they get to be surrounded by the love of their children, and they escaped on a wild and fun Greece getaway with their brood this summer. They also love soaking up every moment they can with their five grandchildren. (Kate and her beau Danny Fujikawa were expecting Goldie’s sixth grandkid at press time.)
Those close to Goldie and Kurt say the lit- tle ones might soon start pressuring GoGo (as they call Goldie) to officially tie the knot with their grandpa, just like Kate and Oliver did early on in their mom’s relationship with Kurt. “Goldie admits she and Kurt came close to marrying,” the pal shares, though they ultimately resisted. “But with Goldie, you never know! She could decide one day that she wants to do it and talk Kurt into it. But Kurt so far has always said, ‘If it ain’t broke, why fix it?’ ”
That doesn’t mean there’s not constant work that needs to be done to keep their relationship fresh after 35 years. Luckily, Goldie has cooked up the perfect recipe to make it all work. “Love, gratitude, compassion, family, fun, laughs,” she says, adding one very important ingredient to the mix: “Sex! If you don’t nurture and remember that, you’re done!”
THEIR BIG WEDDINGNEWS!
“I thought Kurt was adorable, but much too young,” Goldie said of her co-star in 1984’s Swing Shift.
— Goldie “My family is the most important thing to me,” says Goldie, with (from left) Oliver, Kurt, Wyatt, Kate andher grandchildren.