Sur­viv­ing Our Dark­est Days

After 35 years to­gether, the beloved Hol­ly­wood cou­ple re­veals the be­trayal that nearly tore them apart — and how their kids brought them back from the brink

Closer Weekly - - Front Page - By ABBY WIL­SON

No role was ever more im­por­tant to Goldie Hawn than that of be­ing a mother. “She said the only job she re­fused to fail at was in rais­ing her kids,” daugh­ter Kate Hud­son, 39, shared when Goldie re­ceived her star on the Hol­ly­wood Walk of Fame last year. Fit­tingly, Goldie’s long­time love, Kurt Rus­sell, re­ceived his star on the same day, but Kate in­sisted that the duo’s great­est life achieve­ments were made off­screen. “Their real legacy,” she said, “is the re­la­tion­ship they fiercely re­fused to lose sight of to­gether, and the deep feel­ing of love and nur­tur­ing that they re­serve for the most im­por­tant thing we have in this life: fam­ily.”

Stick­ing to­gether wasn’t al­ways easy for the pair, how­ever. “Ev­ery­body strug­gles,” Goldie, 72, ad­mits, and her 35-year re­la­tion­ship with Kurt, 67, has cer­tainly been tested through the years. The cou­ple, who have a blended fam­ily of four chil­dren, even sep­a­rated for a brief pe­riod in 2004 over al­leged in­fi­deli­ties by both par­ties. “But not break­ing up is their mantra,” a pal tells Closer of what ul­ti­mately re­united the two stars. “Mak­ing sure their kids felt safe and se­cure was al­ways their first pri­or­ity. They re­al­ized they were stronger and bet­ter off as a fam­ily than not.”


“Ev­ery man and

ev­ery wo­man will drive

their part­ner crazy!”

— Goldie

Kurt’s kind ways and in­stant rap­port with her two chil­dren made the for­mer LaughIn star fall hard for him in 1983, when they were co-star­ring op­po­site each other in Swing Shift. “What re­ally got me was when I watched my kids when they’d come to the set and how he was with them,” says Goldie, who had Kate and son Oliver, 42, from her sec­ond mar­riage to mu­si­cian and ac­tor Bill Hud­son. “He was a such a nat­u­ral,” she adds of Kurt, who had a son, Bos­ton, now 38, from his 1979 to 1983 mar­riage to ac­tress Sea­son Hub­ley.

Kurt and Goldie’s romance ig­nited quickly, and they had son, Wy­att, 32, to­gether in 1986. Although Goldie’s kids nudged their mom to walk down the aisle with Kurt, she de­cided against it. “When I think about my life and my mar­riages, they didn’t end up all that great,”

ad­mits Goldie, who had to pay her first hus­band, dancer Gus Triko­nis, a $75,000 set­tle­ment to end their union. “A mar­riage ends up be­ing a busi­ness deal, no mat­ter how long or short it is,” she says. “And I was at the short end of the stick on that one.” After she di­vorced sec­ond hus­band Bill Hud­son in 1982, she lost faith in the tra­di­tional in­sti­tu­tion. “Vows are made; vows are bro­ken. Prom­ises are made; prom­ises are bro­ken,” she says. “What does a piece of pa­per have to do with it for me?”


Ul­ti­mately, though, the free­doms she and Kurt al­lowed each other al­most de­stroyed their re­la­tion­ship. “There was in­fi­delity on both of their parts. Goldie ad­mits that she and Kurt both went off course,” the in­sider shares. In 2000, Kurt was caught by pa­parazzi exit- ing a mas­sage par­lor with a less than honor­able rep­u­ta­tion. A few years later, Goldie jet­ted off solo to In­dia, where she re­port­edly got cozy with soc­cer star Im­ran Khan, who at the time had just re­cently di­vorced. “They were both act­ing out a lit­tle and hav­ing trou­ble com­mu­ni­cat­ing,” an in­sider says. “So they called an adult time-out to get some space so tem­pers could cool.”

“We’ve had ups, downs, side­ways and ev­ery­thing else,” Kurt con­fides to Closer of his re­la­tion­ship with Goldie. They even took some time apart after Goldie’s over­seas ad­ven­ture. “She headed to their house in Mal­ibu while Kurt stayed at their place in Pa­cific Pal­isades. It was rough,” the in­sider re­veals, “but ul­ti­mately they were in it for the long haul. And their chil­dren were a big part of that de­ci­sion. They weren’t about to tear up their fam­ily.”

A shared de­vo­tion to their chil­dren, Goldie says, is their North Star. “No mat­ter how rocky things get, they al­ways find their way back to each other for the sake of their fam­ily,” the in­sider tells Closer. Goldie even cred­its the happy tribe she and Kurt cre­ated for calm­ing her fears about any fu­ture in­fi­deli­ties. “Monogamy is a very tough or­der. We both have the same op­por­tu­ni­ties to meet in­ter­est­ing, ex­cit­ing and gor­geous peo­ple,” she ad­mits of the per­ils of their shared ca­reer in show busi­ness. “I hap­pen to know what movies are all about. You get close to peo­ple. So, yes, I qui­etly, se­cretly hope Kurt doesn’t fall in love with some­body else, but the fact is that we have so much to­gether that to have that fear is re­ally just beat­ing your­self up for no rea­son.”

Plus, it’s easy for Goldie to re­mem­ber what made her fall for Kurt in the first place all those years ago. “He’s just about the best father God ever cre­ated,” she raves. “And he’s de­voted, he’s kind, he’s smart, he’s tal­ented and he’s got a mag­nif­i­cent sense of hu­mor.” Adds the pal, “Kurt’s the only man that Goldie’s been with that makes her laugh con­stantly. She al­ways wants to be joy­ful and to feel happy, and he in­dulges her in that way.”

An­other se­cret to their suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ship is the fact that they’ve learned to em­brace their dif­fer­ences. Goldie, for ex­am­ple, is a med­i­ta­tion en­thu­si­ast who’s launched her own Hawn Foun­da­tion and its mar­quee MindUp pro­gram, which teaches kids healthy emo­tional and so­cial skills.

While sup­port­ive of her en­deav­ors, “Kurt is his own per­son,” Goldie says. “He has a

whole life of his own. He hunts and he does things that in a mil­lion years I wouldn’t be able to do.” He’s also thrown him­self into cre­at­ing and mar­ket­ing his own GoGi brand of wines. Their di­verse in­ter­ests have even in­spired them to re­design their LA home with “his and hers” wings, which al­lows them to still live un­der one roof while af­ford­ing them lots of per­sonal space.


“I would

have been long di­vorced if I ever mar­ried Kurt.”

Goldie and Kurt both cher­ish the time they get to be sur­rounded by the love of their chil­dren, and they es­caped on a wild and fun Greece get­away with their brood this sum­mer. They also love soak­ing up ev­ery mo­ment they can with their five grand­chil­dren. (Kate and her beau Danny Fu­jikawa were ex­pect­ing Goldie’s sixth grand­kid at press time.)

Those close to Goldie and Kurt say the lit- tle ones might soon start pres­sur­ing GoGo (as they call Goldie) to of­fi­cially tie the knot with their grandpa, just like Kate and Oliver did early on in their mom’s re­la­tion­ship with Kurt. “Goldie ad­mits she and Kurt came close to mar­ry­ing,” the pal shares, though they ul­ti­mately re­sisted. “But with Goldie, you never know! She could de­cide one day that she wants to do it and talk Kurt into it. But Kurt so far has al­ways said, ‘If it ain’t broke, why fix it?’ ”

That doesn’t mean there’s not con­stant work that needs to be done to keep their re­la­tion­ship fresh after 35 years. Luck­ily, Goldie has cooked up the per­fect recipe to make it all work. “Love, grat­i­tude, com­pas­sion, fam­ily, fun, laughs,” she says, adding one very im­por­tant in­gre­di­ent to the mix: “Sex! If you don’t nur­ture and re­mem­ber that, you’re done!”


“I thought Kurt was adorable, but much too young,” Goldie said of her co-star in 1984’s Swing Shift.


— Goldie “My fam­ily is the most im­por­tant thing to me,” says Goldie, with (from left) Oliver, Kurt, Wy­att, Kate andher grand­chil­dren.

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