Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): Today it will be better to end one thing and start another than to spin in circles in territory you know all too well. Growth means reaching a new height. You can’t grow without becoming familiar with another altitude. Taurus (April 20-May 20): The biggest obstacle present today will be pride. To be seen in a certain way may seem much more important than it really is. Don’t forget that connection happens in vulnerability, not in strength. Gemini (May 21-June 21): In theory, your feeling good doesn’t have to do with the behaviors of others. However, life is not now, nor will it ever be, a theory. You’re continually surprised by how you are connected to and separate from others. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You’ll be in touch with your wildness, perhaps not fully on board with it, but that’s the nature of wildness. The logical part of you cannot tame it, only admire it. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): If there’s a way to make things more splendid, more extraordinary, you’ll find it because you’re looking for it. The competition is part of this, but it quickly becomes something you do for your own satisfaction. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Our moon may not be responsible for life here, but its influence on the tide and weather certainly plays a part in our development. Similarly, someone orbiting you will have a profound yet indirect influence. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): You are energy. Energy moves in waves; waves move in patterns; patterns create rhythm. So you are energy and rhythm, with the ability to think about that and change it according to your artistic whim. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): Other people’s wealth and attractiveness can be an irritant. Usually you are unfazed by this, but you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t find it occasionally bothersome. Don’t think of them as your competition. That will help. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Connect with animals. Animals are experts at being in the moment and are almost never thinking about their income taxes instead of being present in the here and now. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Is this a pointless game you’re playing? The fact that there is no prize or punishment involved will allow for the playful mindset you need in order to gain some skills. Later you’ll use these skills to do something of consequence. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): There is quite a lot of busywork to handle, and it really does matter. Without the proper procedures and paperwork, things aren’t going to go smoothly. This is worth your time, but don’t let it take up your whole day. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): This is a day of self-discovery. You’ll learn about yourself by tuning in to different parts of your life and relationships, such as what you’re looking forward to and what you’re dreading. DEAR ABBY » My husband is retired. Except for golf a few times a week, he’s home all the time. He has taken to looking at porn a lot when he is home, including pictures and reading racy stories. When I come home from work, he’s on the computer. I’m very uncomfortable with it, and I have told him so. He says I should join him looking at the pictures and reading the stories. Am I a prude or is this behavior unusual?

— Turned off in Houston

DEAR TURNED OFF » I’m reluctant to label either of you with only the sketchy facts you have presented. Much would depend upon the kind of pictures and stories your husband is viewing, because one person’s porn can be another person’s erotica. Many couples enjoy viewing it together and consider it to be a marital aid. Perhaps you should look over his shoulder a time or two and see if it works for you. Also, encourage your husband to get out and do other things, so his porn-watching time is not so excessive.

DEAR ABBY » I am a 71-year-old woman living with my 49-yearold single daughter in her house. She works during the day and I stay at home. She expects me to clean the house, walk the dog, work in the garden, do the laundry, make dinner, etc. I am willing to help with these things, but she doesn’t seem to appreciate what I do, as is often demonstrated by her comments concerning the amount of noise I make when I eat, my bedroom not being clean enough and my activity level.

She says she’s doing this “for my own good,” and that I am lazy and unmotivated to do anything but play on my computer (she unplugged the internet because she thought I spent too much time on it). She claims she loves me and wants me to live with her, but I feel I should move out before this gets physical and she hurts more than my feelings. What should I do?

— Boarder in the South

DEAR BOARDER » Move if you can afford to do it. Your daughter may love you, as I am sure you love her, but the situation you describe isn’t healthy for either of you. You are being treated like a servant, not a mother. You are right to be concerned that your daughter’s verbal abuse may escalate, because it very well could.

DEAR ABBY » My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married. We agree that we would like to be married in Las Vegas. However, it would mean excluding our extended families as most of them would not travel. We thought about having a wedding and reception in our state, then traveling to Vegas to be married there as well. Are there any etiquette breaches with this idea? — Vegas wedding

DEAR VEGAS WEDDING » By the time you get to Vegas you’ll be married. While I don’t think there would be any etiquette breaches if you want another ceremony, it seems to me that it would be more accurate to call it a “renewal of vows” rather than a second wedding.

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