Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): There is a social adjustment to be made — an addition or subtraction to help you stay on the road of health. Pinpoint what needs to be done, make a plan and execute it. This won’t take time so much as will. Taurus (April 20-May 20): Where the physical space is tight, you can make emotional space. Think: passengers on a plane who wear headphones. Where emotional space is tight, make physical space. Gemini (May 21-June 21): You could distill things down to dollars and cents, but it wouldn’t be an accurate assessment of the situation — far from it. In fact, mostly the situation is about invaluable things. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You’re not about to use guilt as a tactic. While it may work well enough, it’s just not an emotion you want people to feel. Either they get you, or they miss out. Guilt doesn’t need to play into the equation in the least. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): To get momentum, there must be a push. That push comes today and not a moment too soon. You’re in a good position. It’s going to be even better once you use this push and get to work. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): For today’s approach to relationships, the most critical things to get right all begin with a “T,” that is to say, truthfulness, tone and timing. Be honest, keep it light, stay aware and wonderful things will happen. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): While many can do what they’re told, fewer can figure it out on their own and even fewer can see the opportunity on their own and then figure it out from there. You’re in the final category, and without much competition. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21): The hard worker will win against the “gifted” person every time. And if you have both going for you in a category, it’s something to bank on. Believe in yourself, and put your resources behind it. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Your friends are the ones who stand by you when you need it, when you don’t, when you’re right, and when you’re wrong. Your best friends are the ones who tell you you’re wrong and stand by you anyway. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): The control freak is not very much fun. Why? Because this person is trying to insure against mystery — every risk calculated, every move audited. What a bore. Embrace mystery, relinquish some control, have fun. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Adults usually have a purpose for moving and rarely wander without a destination. But if you have the time for it, such wandering could benefit you today, as it will allow you to access an unreasonable sort of knowing. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): Patience and long-term thinking are the orders of the day. The big problems will be solved through creating systems that will work for you every day. The big problems will be solved over time. DEAR ABBY >> What are your thoughts about having a sexonly arrangement with an ex? Most of the women I’ve dated have contacted me after the relationship was over hoping to have “no-strings-attached” sex on a regular basis. I have always refused because I figured it would make it more difficult to move on and to meet someone new.

That said, I’m an attractive guy in my early 30s, and I’d hate to continue to waste my prime sexual years. I’d love to be married and have a family, but I’m struggling to find a woman who is honest, loyal, a good communicator and independent. That leaves me with either having no sex while hoping for a miracle, or a lot of sex with women I don’t really like.

— Searching in Oregon

DEAR SEARCHING >> Dating may look like fun, but at a certain point it becomes serious business. You have reached an age at which you know what you are looking for. However, you will never find it as long as you tie yourself to women who don’t fit the bill. This does not mean you must live like a monk, only that you direct your sexual (and emotional) energies forward rather than backward if your goal is marriage and a family.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m 16 and unlike most girls I know, I prefer to be natural. I don’t shave or wax my body hair. My friends accept this as my business. But my stepsisters, whom I share a room with every other weekend, say I look gross and proudly display their shave and wax jobs. They say their boyfriends and nearly all guys prefer it.

I have a boyfriend, but we aren’t to that point. However, someday that day will come. Does it really matter to guys if a girl shaves and waxes? Also, how do I deal with my stepsisters? — Natural in the West

DEAR NATURAL >> Deal with your stepsisters by continuing to ignore their advice and following your own path. The idea that women should be hairless from the eyelids down is one that Madison Avenue and the porn industry have foisted on the public. I can’t predict how “guys” will react to you in your natural state, but I can say this: A MAN who cares about you will be only too glad to accept the entire package — fur and all.

DEAR ABBY >> I have a close friend who visits me often. Recently I discovered that in addition to eating snacks I put out, he has been sneaking food and things like canned beverages from my home when I’m not looking.

He has money. In fact, he is a very generous person. I can’t get over his behavior. Is it right that this bothers me, and if so, what should I say? — Missing my food in

California

DEAR MISSING >> It should bother you, because as petty as it is, it’s still theft. What you should say is, “Why are you taking food from my home without asking me first?” It’s a legitimate question. If he denies it, your buddy may be a bit of a kleptomaniac.

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