Horoscopes

Aries (March 21-April 19): Before you can become more powerful in a situation, it is important to figure out where the power already lies. Note what or who is dominating the environment or setting a tone for interactions. Taurus (April 20-May 20): The success won’t come from working on tasks; it will come from completing them. Even so, it’s the working on the tasks that you’ll find the most fun, so don’t let that seduce you into leaving things undone. Finish! Gemini (May 21-June 21): It’s better to purge and prune your to-do list than to have a bunch of wishful thinking weighting down the bottom of it. Heavy lists are no fun to pick up! Set yourself up to win by being more selective with your plans and energy. Cancer (June 22-July 22): You need just a few more friends, preferably observant and responsive ones who will tell you about yourself in greater detail and highlight the qualities that familiar people aren’t seeing today. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22): You’ll gain much from osmosis today, so don’t worry too much about trying, striving or even learning. It’s all about with whom you surround yourself. People with big dreams and desires they aren’t afraid to go for will strongly influence you. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You don’t have to do everything right (or anything at all) to be worthy of love and support, including and especially your own. Reinforce that concept, and you’ll be lucky today. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23): It’s totally impossible for you to fail at being you. If you occasionally let yourself down, it’s only because you don’t yet know yourself well enough to find the leverage and inspiration you need to steer the wilder side of you. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Worry is just bad feelings about unrealities. Why bother to weave stress around an idea? It’s not that none of the worries could ever happen; it’s just that usually life is more inventive and surprising than that. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): There’s a point in which you’ll want to give up; however, once you push past that, you’ll be able to go twice as far. You’re basically training your mind today, and this will hold you in good stead in the weeks to come. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): If you knew you would get what you focused on, what would you focus on? Choose carefully today because you’re way too powerful to waste your talents on meager distractions. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You won’t meet a single person today from which you can’t learn something. The art is in figuring out what there is to learn, and you might not come up with it right away. Some lessons will come in retrospect. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20): You set the bar pretty high for a project and you’ll definitely get into the ballpark if you keep at it. Don’t let the others tell you what success looks like. Define it on your own terms. DEAR ABBY >> I am in a loving relationship with a kind and caring man, “Byron.” He has a preteen son, “Eli,” from a previous relationship. Eli stays with us several days a week, and I watch him while Byron goes to work. Byron and I would like to spend the rest of our lives together, but I’m uncertain if I can truly be a stepmother to his son.

Eli often yells at and hits his dad. He calls his dad stupid, among other things. He asks for expensive items during every visit, often refuses to bathe and won’t eat anything other than fast food or pizza. If Byron has to say no to Eli because he doesn’t have the money for something, Eli throws a temper tantrum worse than a 2-yearold.

I know the kid is capable of better behavior because he doesn’t behave this way with his mother or grandmother. Byron doesn’t discipline his son at all, which allows his rude and disrespectful behavior to continue. I worry about the boy’s future. How will he hold a job if he acts this way toward a boss?

I like Eli very much. When he’s in a good mood, he’s the kindest child I can think of. But when his mood turns, it’s like the dark side takes over. I love Byron. I would like to marry him. But I don’t know if I can handle watching Eli be so disrespectful to his father. Sometimes it makes me feel like ending things. Please advise me on what to do.

— Hesitant “stepmom”

DEAR “STEPMOM” >> I hope you realize that Eli behaves the way he does because his father allows it. Byron may do this because he feels guilty about the divorce and is afraid his son will “hate” him if he asserts himself. Your gentleman friend really needs to take some parenting classes because his failure to act isn’t good for Eli. Please suggest it.

DEAR ABBY >> I’m surprised by how many people choose not to use headphones while talking on the phone, listening to music or watching videos in public places. Instead, they use the speaker option or their Bluetooth speakers for all to hear.

I travel frequently. It’s bad enough to suffer through one side of the conversation, but hearing both is worse (and these folks talk at top volume and make no attempt to step out of earshot). Lately, I have also noticed people watching videos in restaurants.

At my apartment’s pool, several neighbors do the same thing. Sometimes the music includes offensive language, which I find inappropriate at a family pool. I’m tempted to start competing with them with random videos and music, but I know that’s wrong. Is there a reasonable way to handle these folks?

— Blasted out in Arizona

DEAR BLASTED >> If you are in a restaurant, ask the manager to move you to a quieter table. If you are bothered at your apartment swimming pool, take your complaint to the manager of the complex so a sign can be posted asking tenants to keep the volume low on their devices or wear headphones. It’s worth a try. Do not make the mistake of confronting them yourself.

P.S. Consider putting on headphones and listening to something of your choosing. It will drown out what you don’t want to hear.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.