Daily News (Los Angeles)

Dad must endure entitled teen

- Columnist www.DearAbby.com

I'm writing on behalf of my partner of more than 10 years. He has three daughters ages 23, 20 and 16. While he's close to two of them, his youngest distances herself when she doesn't get what she wants or disagrees with his point of view on something.

Eight months ago, she stopped talking to him because he badmouthed a boy band she likes. He essentiall­y said they weren't worth the money when she asked him to buy her a ticket to their concert. He was going to appease her, but her reaction was so strong, she didn't give him a chance to let her know he was going to buy the ticket anyway.

Her mother doesn't encourage the relationsh­ip or support the importance of her having her father in her life or regular visitation, although it's courtorder­ed. He tried making contact with her several times when this last episode happened, but she

year? ignored his calls and messages. Now that her birthday is coming up, however, she had her older sister send her wish list to him via a text message. Should he buy gifts for a child who has ignored him for the better part of a

— Gifts Or No Gifts

If your partner's daughter wants something from Dad for her birthday, she should ask him directly and not telegraph the message through her sister. Your partner should do what he wants to do about her behavior. You and I know how we would handle this, but we are not him and we are not emotionall­y involved. Stay out of the line of fire.

With no warning, my mother-in-law packed up and left my father-in-law. From what she tells me, he was verbally and emotionall­y abusive, and all-around controllin­g. My father-in-law is remarrying. He met his fiancee shortly after my MIL left.

I don't think I mind that he's getting remarried, but I do mind that no one has told my husband's mother. FIL won't tell her, and my husband won't either. She has said she “doesn't want to know anything” that's going on with my FIL. Not only does she not know, but neither does my husband's brother. My brother-in-law despises his father.

My husband's extended family will be attending the wedding. I have immense guilt about going. I feel like I'm betraying my MIL, with whom I have a good relationsh­ip. My husband wants me to attend. — In A Tough Spot In Iowa

Your former mother-in-law made clear that she doesn't want to know what's going on with your father-in-law, so keep your mouth shut and don't become the town crier. Because your husband says he needs your support on that occasion, go with him.

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