New mom has postpartum depression

Dear Harriette: Following the birth of my child via a C-section, I started to experience what I believe is postpartum depression. It has been overwhelming and emotionally exhausting. Despite the emotional turmoil I am facing, I feel like I have to hide my true feelings and put on a brave face for the sake of my family.

This expectation is becoming increasingly difficult to manage. It’s as if there is an unspoken rule that I must always be strong and put others’ needs before my own. While I understand the importance of being there for my family, I also recognize the need to take care of myself and seek help. I want to break free from this cycle of pretending and find the strength to reach out for support. It is my hope that by sharing my experience with you, I can begin to navigate this difficult journey and find the help I need. Thank you for providing a safe space for me to express myself. — Postpartum Depression

Dear Postpartum Depression:

Statistics show that one new mother in eight experiences postpartum depression. You truly are not alone. Still, it can feel isolating and debilitating. Medical professionals suggest that you do the opposite of what is in your nature: Open up and talk about how you are feeling. Tell your family members.

Ask for help with the baby and your household duties. Join a support group where you can talk to other women who are going through the same thing. For more recommendations, go to: postpartum.net/ resources. If you are ever feeling unstable, call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833852-6262).

Dear Harriette: As the eldest of my seven siblings, I am the only one who looks like my mother’s side of the family, which has led to insinuations that I may not be my father’s child. This constant rumor that I may not truly belong has been emotionally challenging for me. It has created a sense of disconnection and a questioning of my identity. While I understand that physical appearances can vary within families, the persistent remarks and implications have started to take a toll on my self-esteem and overall well-being. I want to find a way to address this issue within my family and to have open and honest conversations about my feelings without causing tension or discomfort. — Deep Sense of Isolation

Dear Deep Sense of Isolation:

Drum up the courage to have a private conversation with your mother. Ask her if the insinuation has any merit. Are you your father’s child? Be direct, even though it will surely be an awkward conversation. If the answer is no, ask her to speak to the family and invite them to quit their harassment. If their assessment is accurate, however, encourage your mom to reveal who your father is. Either way, your mom should speak to the family and urge them to stop harassing you.