Here’s an idea: Just be kind
I spoke with a friend recently who attended a family wedding. Scaled back, it was meant to be COVID-appropriate with masks and social distancing. The ceremony was delayed because several wedding party guests got into an argument in the parking lot about whether coronavirus was a hoax — I kid you not. The wedding eventually proceeded, but the stain of passionate disagreement lingered.
In this day of 24-hour cable news, social media access or like-minded communication, we are tempted to saturate our minds with information that supports what we already have adopted as personal truths. Emboldened by the need to be right, we tend to don an armor that insulates certainty and repels the ability to listen.
Our personal agendas of expression are drowning out opposing voices who seek to understand. And yes, sometimes cruelty and unkind messages are given free reign. Yet, within all this loud and righteous chatter, COVID-19 permeates every aspect of our lives.
Navigating a pandemic calls for all of us to reevaluate how we are contributing to a common goal. Most of us have no recollection of the Spanish Flu of 1918, but I wonder how neighbors navigated their unprecedented crisis together.
We are six months into our own pandemic and the current situation makes me sad. Local businesses are barely hanging on. For many kids, working through excitement jitters anticipating the first day of school will be replaced by hybrid or virtual learning. College students are returning to campus anticipating a fraction of the college life experience. Vacations and weddings have been hijacked. And now, we face fall without Ohio State football. The casualties of this pandemic go on and on. And yet, in the midst of it all, we are having a hard time sharing the struggle.
The chatter of argument and need to be right is exhausting, and has completely displaced the collective action necessary to triumph over COVID-19. The byproduct of this virus is real. The stories of those whose lives are lost or compromised are devastating. The testimony of grieving families is heavy.
It’s time to remember what it means to be a good neighbor and create stories of how we tackled this pandemic that can be shared for generations.
Wear a mask, stay away from crowds and do what the science people say. We can argue for the next 100 years about policy, politics and beliefs. But maybe we should temper our need to be right with a desire to be kind and compassionate and yield to a common mission.
Halloween, University of Dayton basketball, Thanksgiving dinners and holiday festivals are all the next wave of cancellations unless we all put on a mask and check our anger in the parking lot.