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The im­por­tance of kind­ness came as a rev­e­la­tion to Ei­tan BethHalach­my and rep­re­sented a sea change in his at­ti­tude to­ward him­self, horses and other peo­ple. Raised in the harsh con­di­tions of Is­rael just be­fore and af­ter its state­hood, Ei­tan’s early life was highly mil­i­taris­tic out of ne­ces­sity. Kind­ness and soft­ness were not in his vo­cab­u­lary, ex­cept per­haps as de­scrip­tions of the weak­ness of peo­ple who would not sur­vive or could not make it in their cho­sen pro­fes­sion.

He was raised ac­cord­ing to the tenet “never lie,” and you just can­not be kind with that men­tal­ity. Meet­ing Deb­bie and fall­ing in love with her was just a first step to­ward learn­ing to ap­pre­ci­ate the im­por­tance of kind­ness. Deb re­mem­bers strug­gling to make her hus­band understand that truth should never be an ex­cuse to de­stroy some­one; con­versely, the kind­ness of lit­tle lies and oblique en­cour­age­ment to over­come weak­nesses works much more ef­fi­ciently to help oth­ers be­come bet­ter horseper­sons and bet­ter peo­ple.

At some point not too long ago, Ei­tan “got it,” and, like many peo­ple of strong

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