HOW THER­APY SAVED MICHELLE'S MAR­RIAGE

Barack’s wife learned to beat guilt & grief af­ter los­ing a baby

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EIGHT gru­el­ing years in the White House al­most cost Barack and Michelle Obama their mar­riage!

In a bomb­shell con­fes­sion, the for­mer first lady rips the lid off the se­cret trau­mas and tragedies that left them on the brink of divorce — and how she pulled them back from the edge.

She ad­mits she was ready to walk out — but that’s old news to read­ers who’ve fol­lowed GLOBE’s re­ports on the cou­ple’s be­hind-closed­doors marital woes.

“In a mar­riage, there are times you want to leave — I felt that way,” re­veals Michelle, in her block­buster new mem­oir, Be­com­ing.

“The last decade we went through re­ally hard stuff.

“There were def­i­nitely times when I wished things were dif­fer­ent.”

She saved their mar­riage by con­vinc­ing Barack, 57 — the man she was in “lust” with from the mo­ment they met — to get pro­fes­sional help.

“Mar­riage coun­sel­ing for us was one of those ways where we learned how to

talk out our dif­fer­ences,” says Michelle.

“Too many young cou­ples strug­gle and think that some­how there’s some­thing wrong with them. I want them to know that Barack and Michelle Obama work on our mar­riage. And we get help with our mar­riage when we need it.

“What I learned about my­self was that my hap­pi­ness was up to me. That’s not on Barack.

“I stopped feel­ing guilty.” For the first time, Michelle, 54, re­veals the cou­ple — who wed in 1992 — strug­gled with fer­til­ity when they wanted to start a fam­ily.

“It turns out that even two com­mit­ted go-get­ters with a deep love and ro­bust work ethic can’t will them­selves into be­ing preg­nant,” she writes.

Although she fi­nally did con­ceive, she suf­fered a heart­break­ing mis­car­riage within weeks.

The tragedy left her feel­ing iso­lated and aban­doned.

“I felt lost and alone,” she con­fides. “I felt like I failed. I didn’t know how com­mon mis­car­riages were be­cause we don’t talk about them.

“We sit in our own pain, think­ing that some­how we’re bro­ken.

“The bi­o­log­i­cal clock is real — be­cause egg pro­duc­tion is lim­ited. I re­al­ized that as I was 34 and 35.”

The cou­ple turned to IVF (in vitro fer­til­iza­tion) to get preg­nant with daugh­ters Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17.

The Oba­mas are now mak­ing ad­just­ments to life af­ter the White House and work­ing on hav­ing a “phe­nom­e­nal” mar­riage.

“We are find­ing each other again,” says Michelle. “We have din­ners alone and chunks of time where it’s just us — what we were when we started this thing: no kids, no pub­lic­ity, no noth­ing. Just us and our dreams.”

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