HOW THERAPY SAVED MICHELLE'S MARRIAGE
Barack’s wife learned to beat guilt & grief after losing a baby
EIGHT grueling years in the White House almost cost Barack and Michelle Obama their marriage!
In a bombshell confession, the former first lady rips the lid off the secret traumas and tragedies that left them on the brink of divorce — and how she pulled them back from the edge.
She admits she was ready to walk out — but that’s old news to readers who’ve followed GLOBE’s reports on the couple’s behind-closeddoors marital woes.
“In a marriage, there are times you want to leave — I felt that way,” reveals Michelle, in her blockbuster new memoir, Becoming.
“The last decade we went through really hard stuff.
“There were definitely times when I wished things were different.”
She saved their marriage by convincing Barack, 57 — the man she was in “lust” with from the moment they met — to get professional help.
“Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to
talk out our differences,” says Michelle.
“Too many young couples struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them. I want them to know that Barack and Michelle Obama work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.
“What I learned about myself was that my happiness was up to me. That’s not on Barack.
“I stopped feeling guilty.” For the first time, Michelle, 54, reveals the couple — who wed in 1992 — struggled with fertility when they wanted to start a family.
“It turns out that even two committed go-getters with a deep love and robust work ethic can’t will themselves into being pregnant,” she writes.
Although she finally did conceive, she suffered a heartbreaking miscarriage within weeks.
The tragedy left her feeling isolated and abandoned.
“I felt lost and alone,” she confides. “I felt like I failed. I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them.
“We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.
“The biological clock is real — because egg production is limited. I realized that as I was 34 and 35.”
The couple turned to IVF (in vitro fertilization) to get pregnant with daughters Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17.
The Obamas are now making adjustments to life after the White House and working on having a “phenomenal” marriage.
“We are finding each other again,” says Michelle. “We have dinners alone and chunks of time where it’s just us — what we were when we started this thing: no kids, no publicity, no nothing. Just us and our dreams.”
Michelle says counseling helped her and Barack talk out their differences
Michelle and Barack tied theknot in 1992