Man’s bisexual past troubles woman
Dear Abby: I am a 49-yearold woman who has been in a romantic relationship with a good, caring man for two years. We live together, and he shows me all the time how much he loves me.
When we first started dating, he told me he was bisexual and had had relationships with men. He insists I am his true love and he is with only me now. He has never shown signs of straying, but sometimes I get insecure and wonder if I should take him at his word that he only wants me. Should I trust him? Wants to be Sure in Rhode Island
Dear Wants:
This man has been upfront with you.
During the last two years, he has given you no reason to believe he is untrustworthy, so take steps to deal with your insecurity and take him at his word.
Dear Abby: My son and daughter-in-law — the parents of three children — were divorced in 2019. Prior to their divorce, the ex-DIL got pregnant by another man. She has since had a little girl. Do I include the new little girl when they come to visit Grandma? She is still my grandchildren’s half-sister. As they get older and come to visit me, I would feel bad leaving her out of events.
My son is livid that I would even consider including her.
Her other grandparents refuse to have anything to do with her. How do I deal with this?
Dilemma in the Midwest
Dear Dilemma: You have a loving heart. You are the only grandmother that child has ever known, so remain calm, assert your right to selfdetermination and refuse to allow yourself to be bullied or intimidated.
Dear Abby: Unfortunately, I am not in the same income bracket as my family and some of my friends.
Also, I married a guy who doesn’t like to socialize because he’s a recovering alcoholic, and he also has hearing problems. Family and friends rarely ask us to join them when they go out, but they never fail to call and tell me all about the great time they had and where they plan to go next. It hurts, and I resent them for it. Help!
Different in New York
Dear Different: Socialize either with others or by yourselves in places that don’t serve alcohol and aren’t overly noisy. Ask your relatives to join you there — and put the ball in their court.