Woman can’t deal with sister’s drama

Dear Abby: For years my sister has been in a relationship with a man who treats her terribly. She works full time and comes home to find him out partying every day. I have stood by her and offered advice and a willing ear, but at this point, her problems are affecting my marriage as well as my sanity.

His drug problems are getting worse, and he couldn’t care less how she feels. She follows him and sits outside the places he’s hanging out, which forces him to come out and talk to her. I have tried my best to get her to move on.

Last night, she told me she has decided to let him do what he wants but stay with him because his health is deteriorating from the drug use. After 13 years of being her emotional support because she never makes an effort to get out, I’ve reached the end of my rope.

I recently had a baby, and with my new family, I no longer have the time or patience to deal with her drama. I know it may be wrong to bow out, but I need to tell her that her problems have become my problems and they’re damaging me. I don’t think she’s ever gonna draw the line.

Worn Out Sis in Kentucky

Dear Worn Out: I agree it is time to step back, quit trying to solve your sister’s unsolvable problems and concentrate on ones you CAN solve. And when you do, do not apologize or feel guilty for doing so. It won’t make you a bad sister but an emotionally healthier one.

Dear Abby: Like so many others, I am on social media to stay in touch with family and a few friends. I come from a large family with more than a dozen cousins and two siblings, as well as nieces and nephews.

Many of them post photos, a lot of which are about their possessions — “Look at my new car, my new house, etc.” And, of course, they expect you to “like” everything. I know, however, if I did the same thing, they would think

I’m being obnoxious. Mind you, I’m not wealthy.

What’s the best way to handle all the likes everyone expects with the knowledge that they hold me to a different standard?

Sick of Show and Tell

Dear Sick: You are entitled to “like” or IGNORE what your relatives post online. Not everyone has the time to validate every post. If you are asked, say you don’t spend as much time on the internet as they do, period.