Family immediately regrets moving Dear Fed Up: What you should do is consult a lawyer. It’s time you started taking care of YOURSELF, because by now it should be apparent that he never will.

Dear Abby: My husband, my child and I have moved six times over an eight-year period. Some of the moves were within months of each other. All of them were for financial or emotional reasons. The last one took us an hour and a half away from where we had been living for many years. We had formed relationships there, and our child had built friendships. We loved the area and school. We decided to buy a house after renting, and we found one back in an old area we liked.

We have been here three months now, and we all regret the move. We miss our old friends, our child misses the old school and we are unhappy in the new house. I think my child and I may have developed depression. Our child’s grades have slipped.

We are debating returning to the area we loved so much. Family and friends are giving us grief about all the moves, and I know they’ll do it again. We are at a loss as to why we moved away and would like an outside honest opinion. Is it OK to move back to an area we loved and established roots in?

Wandering in Indiana

Dear Wandering: You state that finances had a lot to do with your nomadic lifestyle. That’s a valid reason for moving. I do not think you should quickly move again.

As to your own depression, if you can afford it, I’m suggesting some sessions with a licensed psychologist for the time being.

Dear Abby: I’ve been married to my husband for 21 years. I learned only a few days ago that he has a 9-yearold daughter from an affair he had. I never knew he’d been unfaithful. Now he wants his daughter to move in with us! I’m not crazy about children.

Also, I’m the only one in the household who is employed. He doesn’t even try to find a job, and I’m treated like this live-in housekeeper, cleaning up his messes, etc. He refuses to help with housework. If the kid moves in, I’ll be cleaning up after two people, plus trying to cope with anxiety and depression due to past trauma.

I can only take so much. He says that if I don’t accept her, I don’t accept him. I’m ready to ask him to leave, but what should I really do?

Fed Up in Pennsylvania