Teen has no shame in underwear
Dear Abby: My 18-yearold niece walks around the house in her underwear. She also does it in front of workmen, the cleaning women, answering the door, going out to get the mail, etc. I’m disgusted. Is there anything I can do or say to get her to keep herself a little better covered?
Modest in Massachusetts
Dear Modest: “Someone” should remind your niece that walking around in her underwear in front of workmen, household staff and the mail carrier is disrespectful to them. How their neighbors feel about it is anyone’s guess, but if she’s built like Jennifer
Lopez or one of the Kardashians, they may be enjoying the view.
Dear Abby: My friend is always sending me pics of food and beverages he thinks look appetizing. The problem is, the cut of steak he usually eats is cheap and unhealthy-looking. I try to tell him that better-quality meat often has less fat and cholesterol, but he tunes me out. He drinks a lot of wine, too. I’m trying to help him because I am concerned about his health. He is 56 and has gained a lot of weight. How can I keep him from a cardiovascular emergency?
Dear Healthier: Your friend is an adult. You can’t “keep him” from doing anything.
Because he isn’t open to your helpful suggestions and the photos make you upset, quit looking at them. You may be able to lead by example and convince him to exercise with you. If you do, be sure to start SLOWLY.
Dear Abby: I live in a very small town where everybody knows everything. I own my home and attend a church with a small congregation. When a food pantry opened, I reluctantly began going in to supplement my food budget. The volunteers are all locals, and I know many of them. One woman, who also attends my church, volunteers there as well. This woman has adopted a smirk and a hard stare in my direction when she sees me now. How should I handle her?
Dear Shamed: Discuss it with whoever manages that food bank. Also mention it to your pastor. It is unchristian and uncalledfor.