Butler, Richard L.

Richard Lincoln Butler, age 81, died peacefully at home on May 21, 2023, surrounded by his family. He was born in Hartford, CT on October 2, 1941 to Richard Hartwell Butler and Elizabeth Newell Butler.

Dick was a devoted husband, father and grandfather. He was married to his high school sweetheart, Alice Standard Butler, for 58 years. In addition to his wife he is survived by his children, Betsy Thorp, Margie Butler and Rick Butler, his son-in-law Christopher Thorp and his daughter-in-law Liz Butler and his grandchildren Peter and Elias Thorp and Erin and Abby Butler. He is also survived by his brothers Bob Butler and Hank Butler and was predeceased by his brother John Butler.

Dick grew up in West Hartford, CT enjoying adventures as one of four brothers. Dick attended Kingswood School and treasured the enduring friendships from those years. He graduated from Union College and earned his MBA at the University of Hartford. Dick also served in the Coast Guard Reserves. He was a member of the Asylum Hill Congregational Church throughout his time in West Hartford.

Dick began his career in banking as a branch manager for Hartford National Bank, opening their location at Hartford Hospital. In 1981 he relocated to Pelham Manor, NY to join Manufacturers Hanover and eventually completed his banking career as Managing Director of Global Marketing at JP Morgan Chase. In these roles, Dick was known as an energetic leader and supportive mentor who was fondly appreciated by his peers. Over the years, Dick volunteered his financial skills as Treasurer for the American School for the Deaf in West Hartford, The American Lung Association and The New York School for the Deaf.

In 1996, Dick survived a major stroke. This brought many changes, which he embraced with the positive outlook, determination and courage he carried throughout his life. He applied himself to the rehabilitation process with the same “can do” attitude he brought to his career, making progress many had thought not possible. As was his way, Dick drew from this experience to help others. Over the years, he was quick to support friends who faced difficulties. He also volunteered at The Lawrence & Memorial Hospital, providing a supportive presence to stroke patients and their families.

In this new chapter of life, Dick and Alice moved to Groton Long Point and took on the adventure of winterizing the summer cottage he had known all his life. Dick loved the day-to-day connections with friends and neighbors at GLP. He often rode his bike around the Point, enjoying the chance to have those unplanned catch-ups that he found so meaningful. In his youth Dick loved sailing with friends. As a father he explored the Sound in his Boston Whaler and lobstered with his kids. He cherished his neighbors at Clubhouse Point and the numerous traditions they shared. He also enjoyed volunteering at Mystic Seaport Museum on the Charles W. Morgan. A highlight of his last summer was a celebration of the 100th anniversary of the cottage with his extended family. He shared many happy times with his nephews, nieces and cousins.

Dick delighted in becoming a grandfather. It is no surprise that he flourished in this new role and was a wonderful “Papa” to each of his grandchildren. Dick was loving and always interested.

For years Dick began his day by taking a picture of sunrise and sharing it with his family. Dick brought kindness, patience, and strength to all his life pursuits. He will be greatly missed and will forever be a source of inspiration.

Memorial donations may be made to the New London Homeless Hospitality Center or Groton Open Space Association.

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