Intergenerational connections should be embraced

Fiona de Merrel’s op-ed raised the issue of ageism and how discrimination against elders is prevalent and accepted in our society. [Feb. 17, Opinion, Page 3, “Advanced age is not a disease or moral failing. Including for a president.”].

In Europe, I noticed how differently older people are treated compared to the United States. They are judged individually and valued for their ability to teach younger people based on life lessons and acquired skills. Grandparents pass on traditions such as pasta-making in my native Italy, are welcomed members of an extended family, and most often live at home.

In contrast, when I reached a certain age here and decided to “retire,” suddenly my skills were less valued and my words had less meaning. I hadn’t changed, but how people viewed me did. As a Uconn OLLI [Osher Lifelong Learning Institute] member and volunteer, the people I meet clearly demonstrate that common misconceptions about age could not be farther from the truth.

I had the good fortune in my career to work with young people. In working together, we both learned from each other. Those relationships continue to this day. If we want to dispel the common myths about aging, we need to promote intergenerational connections and learning. Younger generations will find that the occasional lapse of memory or the fact that it may take a little longer to complete a task is offset by meaningful advice, and experience in making decisions. Older people will stay current and gain perspective on the challenges of today’s world.

Ageism can be overcome if we move away from stereotypes and value people regardless of age.

Vickie Orsini Nardello, Prospect