You have to surround yourself with people who are going to replenish you, not people who will take away from you. My friendships—my girlfriends— are encouraging and loving. They make me want to be a better person.
There isn’t always going to be someone to help push you toward your dreams— you have to be your own cheerleader. There was a time that life felt like a grind. I remember having an apartment and having no furniture and asking my landlord to give me another week to pay him. It was almost to the point when I felt like, “What the heck is next?” All I had was prayer and hope—hope that tomorrow something would be different. I learned to listen to that voice inside telling you to get up and go.
I journal to stay mentally fit— it helps me get out my feelings and dump exhausting thoughts. When I want to protect my dreams and well-being, I just write and write. It’s amazing.
Now that I am where I am in my career and a mom,
I look back at my younger years, and I realize I was always chasing what other people were doing.
You have to take a moment to appreciate where you are in life because it’s further than you were yesterday. Those little steps, the tiny victories, are super important to acknowledge.
Tika, 38, stars in Nobody’s Fool, now in theaters.