Strategies to Move Beyond the Burglary
It was a rough day at work. To make matters worse, the traffic on the way home was worse than usual. You are really looking forward to a quiet and relaxing evening at home.
But, wait, something is wrong. The door is not locked. You start to walk inside. Oh, no! The place has been ransacked. You’ve been robbed! Now what?
01 GET OUT.
The burglars might still be there. This is no time for heroics. They might be armed. Call the police from outside. Let them discover if the culprits are still there.
02 IDENTIFY YOURSELF.
When you call the police, tell them what you look like, what you are wearing and let them know you will be outside your home. When they arrive, approach them slowly and calmly. Keep your hands where they can see them. You don’t want to be mistaken for the bad guy.
03 DON’T SECOND-GUESS.
This is not the time for second guessing. Avoid the “tyranny of the should.” “I should have gotten an alarm,” “I should have known this would happen,” etc.
Self-blame won’t undo what has happened. It will only make you feel worse.
04 LOOK FORWARD, NOT BACKWARD.
Don’t waste emotional energy on what you didn’t do; focus on what you will do next. Homeowner’s insurance? Alarm systems? The old adage is true: It is better late, than never.
05 GET HELP.
Anger, fear and depression are common strong emotions after a break-in. You may bombard yourself with questions. “Why me?” “What if they return?” “How could they do this to me?” Research on Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) indicates that the sooner someone can debrief with a professional counselor, the less chance of developing PTSD. Don’t be reluctant to seek professional help.
06 STAY POSITIVE.
Remind yourself that it certainly could have been worse. You are alive. Possessions can be replaced. Reassure yourself that you will get through this; you are stronger than you think. Remember, even the worse nightmare eventually ends. HD