Here’s how to manage an unexpected layoff successfully
Q: I just received notice last month that my job was eliminated, and I am concerned about my future. Before I start talking with employers, I know I need to sound more confident instead of feeling doubtful. Any suggestions in dealing with being laid off from your job would help.
A: It is a rare career path without disappointments or bad decisions. Losing a job can be challenging even if you sense a change could come your way. It is human nature to be concerned about job security, and it can be difficult to imagine your next job. No one likes to feel vulnerable, especially if you are unprepared financially. It can feel as though you have no control over your next job.
Job loss can be either a stumbling block or a stepping stone to a new career path, one that is better. But focusing your energy on what you cannot control is a losing battle. Managing a job layoff is learning how to manage anxiety and spending your time effectively.
It helps to keep in mind that you are not alone. Countless others can relate to layoff anxiety and can help with encouragement and networking. Give yourself some space to grieve your job loss while at the same time keeping things in perspective.
It is okay to feel anxious, but staying anxious can deplete your energy and keep you at a standstill. Start moving towards loss by acting toward the things you can change. For example, start by identifying your interests and considering where you want to work.
The next step is to nourish your mind by focusing your energy on healthy ways to move your job search forward.
Here are some practical ways to manage an unexpected job loss.
• Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and exercise. Even taking a walk around the block for 30 minutes is better than sitting at home waiting for someone to call with job information. Stress that is related to a job search can help motivate you to act and serve you proactively rather than keep you worried.
• Creating a job search plan is a great way to reduce anxiety. Stay around positive people and avoid putting yourself in situations that bring you down, such as being around other fearful people. Your plan will help give you a direction to follow and a structure to keep.
• Ask a friend to meet with you regularly to discuss your progress. Reach out to those who will give you feedback and encouragement. Job loss is common in the workplace, and learning to keep healthy career habits reminds you of the need to stay in contact with people.
• The most common aspect of anxiety is dealing with the unknown, avoiding rejection, and disconnecting from people. One of the best ways to handle layoff anxiety is to stay active in taking classes, learning something new, updating your skills, and talking with people.
• Keep realistic expectations. Your expectations of what a job search is supposed to be will often rule your thinking. If you expect a career change to be complex and challenging, with lots of rejection, it most likely will. If you expect a job search to be one of learning new skills, strengthening your career goals, and growing in self-knowledge, it most likely will.
• Combat the “what-ifs” by keeping a journal. Most worry begins internally with the “what-ifs,” you can catch yourself from wasting time by recognizing when you start projecting fearful thoughts. Journaling helps you express your feelings about your job and life as you are experiencing right now in a healthy way. Once things rebound, you will look back on your journal and realize how strong you are.
• List everything you are grateful for, such as your friends and family. Gratitude helps you get your mind off the negative and helps remind you of important things. It paves the way for a positive energy flow that attracts opportunities.