Military spouses deserve more appreciation, support

From Armed Forces Day to Memorial Day to Military Spouse Appreciation Day, May is a month that honors our veterans in many different ways. But we still have work to do in how we recognize and support their families.

Can we really address veterans’ needs separate from the challenges faced by the family as a whole? Simply put, the answer is no unless we change what we are doing. We can do more to provide spouses the support they need to provide essential caregiving for their veterans as well as rebuild their families’ emotional and economic health.

Spouses are vital to veterans’ successful transition into civilian life and in veterans’ recovery process when they require treatment. It is often the wives and partners who actively encourage their spouse to seek treatment, in order to save their marriage and/or to improve their children’s relationship with their parent. It’s also spouses who become the family’s breadwinner when veterans are unable to work.

While many veterans receive pensions and disability pay, the money is not enough to provide for a family transitioning to new lives in new homes. An employed spouse allows veterans time to find appropriate, higher income employment, instead of being forced to take the first available job in order to support their family. Unfortunately, spouse unemployment and underemployment are among the most common issues facing military and veteran families.

In a recent survey by Blue Star Families, 75 percent of spouses said their status as a military spouse negatively impacted their career. Military spouse employment was indicated as the top obstacle to financial security. In fact, the Military Officers Association of America and the Institute for Veterans and Military Families at Syracuse University conducted their own survey in 2013 and found a whopping 90 percent of responding female spouses of active duty service members are underemployed.

In other words, we are ignoring a huge issue affecting the resiliency of our military and veteran families.

Many factors contribute to these high rates. During a veteran’s service, their spouse often must put their own career and education on hold. Frequent moves lead to school transfers, unfinished degrees, disjointed resumes with strings of short-term employments, professional licensure issues that may bar a spouse from practicing in a new state, and reluctance from employers to invest in hiring someone who may soon move. Spouses deserve equal preference for employment that is afforded to the veterans they care for and support.

Spouses of veterans should receive career counseling, internships and preferential hiring just like veterans. For example, the Texas Veterans Commission has opened career counseling services to spouses and dependents. Other agencies should follow suit and lawmakers should eliminate hurdles. For instance, Texas Senate Bill 1476, passed in 2013, established the Veteran Entrepreneur Program to support veteran-owned small businesses. Like many programs aimed at helping veterans, programs such as these are unable to assist veteran spouses because of the language of the bill, even if they see the value in doing so, because the program recipients must themselves be veterans.

According to Texas state law, wartime veterans have preference in employment in state agencies or offices, as do widows and orphans of those killed on active duty, until that office has reached 40 percent veteran employment. Passing similar legislation at a state level inclusive of all wartime veteran spouses would help improve economic stability in veteran family households.

There is a common saying among the caregiver community to “put on your own oxygen mask first.” This metaphor recognizes that it is impossible to take care of others if you are not taking care of yourself. Spouses and caregivers are so used to playing a supporting role, they often forget about their own needs. When they are well cared for, veterans and their children fare better. For the sake of our communities and our veterans, we can’t afford to ignore these hidden heroes. We must do more for the spouses of our veterans.