Alcoholic recognizes sober truths after wife leaves him.
Dear Abby:
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and are doing great. We both have careers we enjoy. However, he makes more money in a week than I sometimes earn in a month. Neither of us has financial problems, but I feel like this makes him superior to me.
Am I shallow for comparing the two of us this way? He assures me that he will love me the same regardless of how much money I make, or even if I choose not to work at all.
We have been talking about buying a house and moving in together. Should I give in and let him “take care of me,” or consider higher-paying job opportunities that would allow me to feel better about myself and pull my fair share of the weight? Dear Kristin:
You need to ask yourself why your self-esteem is tied to how much money you earn. According to your boyfriend, you are pulling your fair share of the weight. You say you
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Dear Heloise:
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I live in a retirement community. Every other year, our card club has a enjoy your career. I would hate to see you sacrifice it in order to go to a job every day that you may be less happy doing because you earn less than your boyfriend.
Dear Abby:
I have been married for 17 years to the love of my life. Last year, she decided our marriage is over.
Nine years into our marriage, I became an alcoholic. Try as I might, I couldn’t find a way to stop drinking. Year after year, she stuck by me, hoping something would change.
Last year, I found out that, due to my drinking, I had developed a heart condition that may end my life. I think it was the last straw for her because even after getting the news, I continued to drink. Seven months ago she told me we are done.
Since the day she said it, I have been clean and sober, and my heart is getting stronger. I have tried contacting her, but she won’t return my calls home décor exchange and luncheon.
The ladies bring their items to my house, and I stage them, then we shop. The items left over, we donate. The following year we do fashion or letters. I know the trust is gone, but I so badly want my wife back. I don’t think she believes I’m finally sober because we have gone down this road many times.
How do I prove to her that I have changed and it will no longer be an issue? This is breaking my heart and has given me an insight into what she must have been feeling all these years. Dear Learned:
The best way to prove to your wife that you have changed and won’t fall off the wagon again is to continue living a clean and sober lifestyle. If you have friends or family in common, when they see what you are accomplishing every day, they may mention it to her. Even if you receive no response, continue writing to her and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will bring her back, but it may help.
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