Woman is re­luc­tant to tell fi­ancé about new re­li­gion.

Houston Chronicle - - STAR - www.DearAbby.com An­drews McMeel Syn­di­ca­tion

Dear Abby:

I am a woman in my

30s with a good head on my shoul­ders, but I have a dilemma. I re­cently be­came Wic­can, and I’m hid­ing my new re­li­gion from my fi­ance.

I was raised Protes­tant but have drifted away from Chris­tian­ity.

My fi­ance was raised Catholic but no longer prac­tices. He’s not ac­tively in­volved in any re­li­gion, but I’m wor­ried about how he will re­act to learn­ing that I’m now a “witch,” which is just a broad term for any­one who fol­lows the Wic­can spir­i­tual path.

I don’t want him to think I’ve lost my mind, but I also can’t keep hid­ing my be­liefs from him.

Se­crets are never a pos­i­tive thing in a re­la­tion­ship, but I’m wor­ried about how this news will be re­ceived.

Please help. — West Vir­ginia Wic­can

Dear Wic­can:

I agree this isn’t a se­cret you should keep.

If it were me, I would start dis­clos­ing the in­for­ma­tion slowly, sharing Wic­can lit­er­a­ture, telling him I found it fas­ci­nat­ing, and sharing a few of the prin­ci­ples with him.

Re­frain from hit­ting him over the head with an an­nounce­ment of your con­ver­sion and it will be less shock­ing.

Dear Abby:

I have a new boss. He is a very nice man. With the Christ­mas season ap­proach­ing, how do I com­mu­ni­cate to him that I do not want to ex­change gifts? I don’t want him to feel ob­li­gated to give me any­thing.

It may be pre­sump­tu­ous of me to think he may want to.

I be­lieve this is his first su­per­vi­sory po­si­tion, and he may not even think about gifts.

We have very lit­tle con­tact. I have been the re­cep­tion­ist for our build­ing for many years and do not re­quire much su­per­vi­sion.

We are in dif­fer­ent parts of the build­ing, and he stops by oc­ca­sion­ally to see how I’m do­ing. My pre­vi­ous boss, a woman I re­ported to for many years, and I would ex­change gifts be­cause we were friends. — Cor­dial in Texas

Dear Cor­dial:

I do not rec­om­mend men­tion­ing gifts to your new boss. It is en­tirely pos­si­ble that he won’t be gift­ing you any­thing this Christ­mas. How­ever, on the chance that he might, keep a lit­tle some­thing in your desk drawer just in case. A small, prepack­aged fruit­cake might be nice. You can al­ways use it as a doorstop or a hockey puck if he doesn’t drop by with a gift in hand.

ABBY

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