Dear Annie: My live-in girlfriend of 15 years, who is 12 years older,
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Ongoing ADOPT A SHELTER DOG
Give a dog a reason to be thankful – adopt a shelter dog for $10.* The fee is for the entire month of November.
*Fees include spay/neuter and first set of shots
For more information, please contact the Inyo County Animal Shelter at (760) 938-2715. Address: 1001 County Road, Big Pine Hours: TuesdayFriday, 10 a.m. - 3 p.m., Saturday Sunday, 11 a.m. - 4 p.m., closed Monday. This promotion and message is brought to you by Eastern Sierra Dog Rescue.
NIH GIFT SHOP
The Northern Inyo Hospital Auxiliary Gift Shop, in the lobby of the hospital, is now open Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from noon to 4 p.m. The shop carries a wonderful selection of baby clothes and accessories, unique gifts and is the only place in town that sells See’s Candy. The shop accepts credit cards.
FRIENDS OF THE INYO
Friends of the Inyo’s summer calendar of free outdoor educational and volunteering events throughout Mono and Inyo counties is up on the Events tab of its website, friendsoftheinyo. org/events, and is full of offerings to the public that include interpretive hikes, half-day volunteer cleanup events and multi-day backcountry stewardship events, nature-based yoga, and desert campouts. Most events have a limit of attendees to keep group sizes manageable and ensure a quality experience in nature while respecting habitat, therefore, early signup is encouraged.
WILDLIFE PROGRAMS OUTDOORS
Wildcare Eastern Sierra offers free outdoor education programs in its yard when weather allows. Hawks, raven, snakes, birds, reptiles; nests, feathers, bones, rocks, shells, more. Families, small groups, clubs: call the center at (760) 872-1487 to schedule date.
Thursday, Nov. 17 IC BOARD OF EDUCATION
The Inyo County Board of Education is scheduled to meet at 1 p.m. at the Inyo County Office of Education, George Lozito Conference Room, 166 Grandview Drive, Bishop,. For more information, including the meeting agenda, go to www.inyocoe. org.
C5 STUDIOS ARTS, CRAFTS ACTIVITY
C5 Studios, 210 S. Warren St., Bishop, offers many types of arts and crafts classes, workshops and more from 5:30 - 6:30 p.m. Sometimes multiple activities per day are scheduled. For detailed information about topics on this scheduled date including activity descriptions, times, and costs, visit https://www.c5studios. org/classes-calendar.
Bishop TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) meets Thursdays, 6 p.m., at the Highlands Senior Clubhouse. TOPS can help you reach your weight loss goals - providing tools, information, support and accountability. For never wants to hang out with me and any of my friends. Even when more information contact Teresa 872-6729 or visit www.tops.org.
Saturday, Nov. 19 BP AMERICAN LEGION AUXILIARY
Big Pine American Legion Auxiliary Unit 457 will be hosting the District 27 meeting starting at a.m. in the town hall. A traditional Thanksgiving luncheon will be served for $10. All auxiliary members and veterans are encouraged to attend these events.
Eastern Sierra Transit’s 16th annual Stuff-A-Bus food drive will be from 10 a.m. - 1 p.m. at the Bishop Grocery Outlet, 1320 N. Main St. In partnership with the Bishop Grocery Outlet and KIBS/KBOV, these donations will benefit the Salvation Army food pantry. Food donations help the Salvation Army fight hunger and food insecurity in the Eastern Sierra. Donations can also be dropped off at the Eastern Sierra Transit office at 565 Airport Road.
FALL/CHRISTMAS CRAFT BOUTIQUE
Bishop Senior Center Recreation Committee’s annual Fall/Christmas Craft Boutique, featuring See’s candy, peanut brittle, homebaked sweets and more, will be from 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. at the Bishop Senior Center, 682 Spruce St., behind the Bishop City Park. For more information, call Becky Manross, (760) 873-7502.
Sunday, Nov. 20 INDEPENDENCE THANKSGIVING
The annual Independence Community Thanksgiving Dinner will be at 2 p.m. at the Owens Valley School multipurpose room behind the gym located at 202 S. Clay St., Independence. Bring a Thanksgiving dish to accompany turkey, dressing and gravy; table service is provided. All are welcome. For more information, call Rich, (760) 878-8109.
Friday, Nov. 25 TRAIN RIDES AT LAWS MUSEUM
The Laws Railroad Museum and Historical Site will feature Death Valley Brill Car No. 5 train rides from 11 a.m. - 2:30 p.m. Rides last 15 to 20 minutes, and cost $5 per person for adults and children older than 10 years in age. Children under 10 can ride for $1. Babes in arms and well-behaved pets ride free. Tickets can be purchased in the Depot with cash. For more information, call (760) 873-5950 or email email@example.com.
Saturday, Nov. 26 CARDINAL VILLAGE
The Cardinal Village Tree Sale and Christmas Fun runs from Nov. 26 through Dec. 17 featuring trees for sale every Friday to Sunday after Thanksgiving through the weekend before Christmas. When the trees are selling the General Store is open and the Gingerbread Cafe will be serving soups, cinnamon rolls and other goodies from 10 a.m. -3 p.m. Santa will be with at Cardinal Village from 11 a.m. - 3 p.m. on Saturdays and 2:30 - 5 p.m. on Sundays. There is also free ice skating. You can bring your own skates, or borrow from the resort. Check out Cardinal Village Resort’s Facebook Page for more information. Cardinal Village Resort is located at 321 Cardinal Road, Bishop.
Tuesday, Nov. 29 COUNTY BOARD OF SUPERVISORS
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Supervisors meets in regular session at 10 a.m. with the agenda available at the county website, www.inyocounty.us. The meeting will be held in the Board Chambers at the County Administrative Center in Independence, 224 N. Edwards St. You can stream meetings live and participate via Zoom through the county’s website at www.inyocounty. us/.
Greg Hellbourg of Caltech’s Owens Valley Radio Observatory, will present “Where is Everybody,” an astronomy lecture at 6 p.m. at the Bishop Union High School Auditorium 301 N Fowler, Bishop. For more information, call (760) 3586410.
Wednesday, Nov. 30 NIH AUXILIARY
The Northern Inyo Hospital Auxiliary meet every Wednesday at the Hospital Annex 2759 Birch Street (enter at the Grandview Street Entrance) at 10 a.m. The second Wednesday of the month is a General Meeting. Other Wednesdays are devoted to making crafts for the annual Holiday Boutique. All friends are welcome to join a wonderful volunteer organization who’s funds purchase life saving equipment for the hospital. For more information, contact President Judy Fratella (760) 873-4059.
Thursday, Dec. 1 LIGHT UP A LIFE CEREMONY
The Light Up A Life Hospice Tree Lighting Ceremony will be from 5:30 - 6:30 p.m. at Pioneer Home Health Care, 363 Academy Ave., Bishop. Friends and loved ones are honored, remembered or memorialized. Light refreshments will be served following the tree lighting. Everyone is welcome. Your gift of $10 will light a bulb in their honor while supporting the good works of hospice care. Call Pioneer Home Health Care to sponsor light(s); (760) 872-4663 or visit 363 Academy Ave.
Bishop TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) meets Thursdays, 6 p.m., at the Highlands Senior Clubhouse. TOPS can help you reach your weight loss goals - providing tools, information, support and accountability. For more information contact Teresa at 872-6729 or visit www.tops.org.
Saturday, Dec. 3 CHRISTMAS PARADE IN BISHOP
The Christmas parade in Bishop, which is organized by the Bishop Chamber of Commerce and Information Center, is set to begin at 4:30 p.m. and this year’s theme is “Christmas Movies.” Parade entry forms are now available and due by Nov. 23. For more information, stop by the Bishop Chamber, 690 N. Main Street or call (760) 873-8405. Just before the parade, Bishop Rotary Clubs will host the annual Santa Mile Fun Run and immediately after the parade, there will be a Tree Lighting Ceremony in front of the Bishop City Park.
AVALANCHE CENTER FUNDRAISER
The Eastern Sierra Avalanche Center season kickoff fundraiser will be from 7 - 10 p.m. at the Eastern Sierra Tri-County Fairgrounds in Bishop. There will be raffles, food trucks and more. For more information, go to www.esavalanche.org. anything. When we first met, it was no problem, but throughout the years, she just wants to hang out with her father and me. I would love to do dinners, birthdays and vacations with other people, but she just shows no interest. Should I go out with these other couples and friends and not feel bad since she’s the one who is not interested? Is there anything I can do to try to get her to do something with my friends, or is it pretty much the way things are going to be? I just don’t think it’s normal behavior to never want to do anything with anyone. Please help.
– Seeking Social Time
Dear Seeking Social Time: Everyone has different needs when it comes to social time versus time spent alone. And it’s not like your wife is antisocial – she spends time with you and with her father, after all. Some people like to keep their circles small.
That said, friends and community are important to most people, and the fact that your wife has no interest in forming those connections could be a sign of depression. Encourage her to speak with a doctor or therapist to discover the root of why she doesn’t want to form connections with the people around her. It is possible that if you tried couples therapy, you might reach a compromise that would be comfortable for both of you.
Dear Annie: My wife recently posed a question to me, and I’m not sure how to feel about it. She asked if I would be OK if she “had an intimate relationship” with a woman. Of course, I want to be supportive and, if I’m being 100% honest, would want this to happen if I were involved also. But when I mentioned that, she said “no, that this was about her, and if at some point she was comfortable bringing this into our home, then we could discuss it.”
I feel like she’s curious, but wanting an open relationship only on one end doesn’t seem to be sitting well with me. Please advise.
– Third Wheel
Dear Third Wheel: Her proposal has you coming out on the losing end for sure. She wants to explore her sexuality with zero consequences, but she wants you to stay monogamous and committed to her? A couples therapist can help you two figure out whether an open relationship might be a healthy option for you two. But that comes with the caveat that it’s open for the (SET ITAL) both (END ITAL) of you. Conversely, a therapist might help you two discover that the monogamy you committed to when you married is the best path forward after all.
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