Life begins at 66, so get busy living it

DEAR ABBY: I read the letter from the woman who is feeling alone at 66 and pondering the purpose of life (“Living Life in Texas,” July 25). Assuming she’s in good health, she’s a spring chicken compared to a 90-year-old. Allow me to offer some suggestions on how she can recapture the spark of wonder and amazement that life’s boundless opportunities offer. I’m 68 and speak from experience.

“Living Life” mentioned that she volunteers. Perhaps she could change her routine and explore new possibilities as a volunteer. We sometimes get in a rut and become complacent about making changes that would spice up our lives. She could get a pet if she doesn’t have one. You get more than you give with a pet — they provide loving companionship on a daily basis.

Travel with a nonprofit touring company called Road Scholar is another great option. Don’t hesitate to join the tours as a solo traveler. You will meet others who are as excited as you to explore the world.

Keep questioning, researching and learning about topics that pique your interest. We are never too old to learn new things. The wonders of the universe are at your fingertips. — Full of Zest in Ohio

DEAR FULL: Your suggestion about adopting a pet from a shelter was echoed by many readers. They also suggested traveling with friends, as well as working with youth in need — as a tutor, a Big Sister, adoptive grandparent or foster mother, or becoming a reader at the public library. Hospitals need volunteers to hold premature babies and give them physical contact.

DEAR ABBY: I have a child who is 11. I have been a single parent all these years. The father has not reached out on any occasion. Because of that, we built our own lives. Recently, the father has decided he wants his rights known as a father, but he has made no changes to prove he is worthy. His phone calls are still random; there are no visits and no support emotionally or financially. How do I let him know he is interrupting a peaceful life for my beautiful child? I need help telling him to “Hit the road, Jack!” — Peaceful in the West

DEAR PEACEFUL: Getting the deadbeat out of your lives may not be as simple as telling him to scram. For accurate information about what “rights” he may have, consult a lawyer with expertise in family law.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.