Racy texts to husband worry wife
DEAR ABBY: My husband, “Ralph,” recently started receiving sexually oriented texts from a male co-worker I’ll call Mike. What Ralph once read aloud to me saying, “He’s such a goof. Listen to this!” has now become covert reading for him.
I have asked Ralph pointblank if he has feelings for Mike, which he denies. But he won’t ask him to stop, either. Ralph knows this worries me and has me questioning our relationship. I’m tempted to contact Mike myself. Thoughts? — Baffled in St. Louis
DEAR BAFFLED: Your husband may not have feelings for this co-worker, but his co-worker appears to have some for him. Either way, Mike’s behavior is unusual. While I don’t think you should contact him, this is something you should revisit with your husband.
DEAR ABBY: A man came to my home today to fix a tech problem and proceeded to hit on me. It was so unprofessional. I was home alone, and being faced with that situation caused me to turn red. He then commented on my blushing, and I just sat there saying nothing.
I am berating myself for not speaking up, and I’m disgusted that he assumed I was blushing because I liked the attention when it was the opposite!
I was hoping you could tell me what to say or do in order to better handle these situations in the future. I want to be more vocal; I just don’t know how to be. — Blushing in Texas
DEAR BLUSHING: Whether you were red with embarrassment or pale with anger is irrelevant. You should report him to his employer to make sure he will never come to your home again.
If someone behaves inappropriately during a service call to your home, you are within your rights to tell the person you want him to leave IMMEDIATELY, and that is what you should have done.
DEAR ABBY: I recently went to the movies with a couple of friends. At the concession stand, I bought popcorn. They did not. However, as we sat down, they eyed my popcorn as I was munching. I didn’t offer them any. I figured they could have bought their own if they wanted some. Should I have? It’s been bothering me ever since. Was I selfish? — Matinee Muncher
DEAR MUNCHER: The polite thing to do would have been to offer them some of your popcorn. As to whether not doing so was selfish, the answer is: “Mmmmhmmmm.” (I’d say it more clearly, but my mouth is full.)
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