Abby-approved marriage proves lasting
DEAR ABBY: When I was 16 and wanted to get married, my father suggested I write to Dear Abby (your mom was writing the column back then). He said he would agree with what she said. Abby wrote me back. We did get married, and I decided that on our 25th anniversary, I would let you know how we were doing. You printed my letter.
As we celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary year, our marriage has only strengthened. A very young couple who began with no idea what path we would take has experienced the best that life could offer. We have two beautiful daughters, wonderful grandchildren and a great-grandchild. We’ve had success in our careers, traveled the world, visited every state and can confidently relate that life has been good.
Commitment through the good and bad times is the key to a lasting marriage. It isn’t always easy, but the rewards far outweigh the problems. — Took the Advice in Montana
DEAR TOOK THE ADVICE: I’m pleased to know you are as happy on your 50th anniversary as you were on your 25th. It’s interesting you would say the key is commitment. I would offer it is also mutual respect. (My mother once said the key to a lasting marriage is a husband who lasts!)
My warmest congratulations to you both, and a very happy Valentine’s Day to you, your husband and to all my readers.
DEAR ABBY: I’m married to a beautiful woman, “Suzonne.” We are bodybuilders and into fitness.
Recently, my wife cut her hair short. It’s a great look for her. Unfortunately, some people have begun calling her “sir.” Suzonne waits tables a couple of nights a week. Some of the customers keep calling her “sir” after she has told them she’s female.
I know it hurts my wife’s feelings, although she has been super strong about it. It’s plain when you look at Suzonne that she is a beautiful woman.
How can she nip this in the bud before it starts to make her feel bad? — Hurt Feelings in Florida
DEAR HURT FEELINGS: Because your wife has a muscular build and a short haircut, it’s possible some of the individuals are making an honest mistake. However, for someone to persist after being informed is extremely rude.
Suzonne should ask her manager how the situation should be handled rather than allow it to continue.
But under no circumstances should you get into a physical altercation. Instead, continue to reassure your wife she’s beautiful.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www. Dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.